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May 30, 2016 Hi {!firstname_fix} Every other week, my cleaning team arrives. Four ladies smiling and laughing come armed with mops, rags, vacuum cleaners and get to work in a flash. An hour later, everything is immaculate, sparkling and sweet smelling. They even brought powder that they sprinkled in the rugs, LOL. I guess they noticed 4 dogs the last time they came. The dogs waited on the porch, and even though the door was open, they simply sat and waited. Talk about a joy dot!! Sheer heaven. Someone wrote me last week and asked me about the Signature Consultation Plan I have. She said she thought she saw it in the newsletter but couldn't find it again on the web site. It is listed under *SUPPORT* on the consultation page. It is basically a 90-day opportunity to work with me directly. We have found that this option can turbocharge your program. The plan includes: 2 one-hour assessments, a weekly 30-minute check in via phone or Skype, an online interactive food journal and regular email comments from me. Here is the link for more information. These classes will begin Wednesday, June 1, 2016. Please Signup and it will take you to the registration page:
We won't start a new class beginning Wednesday, June 8, 2016 because I will be presenting in Connecticut for a group of graduate students and taking some time off to rest. We will start a new class beginning Wednesday, June 15, 2016. Please Signup and it will take you to the registration page:
Check the class list page for more information on how the classes work. See the the Class Schedule here. Be sure to visit our Radiant Recovery website and Community Forum regularly. Warmly, Kathleen **********************************************************************
**Quote From Kathleen**As you keep your journal you can discover that there is a direct correlation between what you are eating and how you are feeling. **********************************************************************
**Testimonial of the Week**I have been doing RR for a year now - since sometime in October. :) I am such a sugar sensitive. :) I was the creative one - the high achieving English and writing person and the "sensitive" one in the family - the one who could always cry at the drop of a hat. My father nicknamed me Gator Girl during the first week of my life because I dove for my bottle like a Gator. No one can tell me that sugar sensitivity is not something I was born with. :) I developed a binging problem as early as 5 years old. I dieted and exercised madly all through school and managed not to put on much weight until later when I went to college; then the real diet/binge roller coaster began. I'm 30 now, so I had 25 years of insanity before I found RR. I came to the program with no energy, feeling almost crazy, depressed, eating gobs of sweets most days, emotionally unstable, feeling anxiety for the first time in my life, surrounded by a dirty house, lacking motivation for almost everything, and full of rage. I know now that I was really at the end of my rope. I was in the worst shape of my life physically, mentally, and emotionally. I jumped right into the steps after I found the website and read the books as I worked on step 1. I had tried EVERYTHING already: Weight Watchers, OA, abstinence from sugar, non-dieting, First Place, Atkins, low cal. You name it; I've done it. In the process of working the steps and finding the program, my DD was being tested for autism and my husband was facing a job change that meant an impending move for our family. I began to experience peace about all of that. I have no doubt that I found RR just in time; otherwise, I think I would have had an emotional breakdown over the stress and uncertainty. My then 3-year-old daughter was diagnosed with autism last March; by that time, I was on step 3 and was coping pretty well. My weight stabilized after about a 10-pound gain. Now, I've lost that weight and then just a bit, but I am not at all concerned with the weight. I realized very quickly that I could feel good no matter my size; weight was not the issue. My imbalanced biochemistry was and is what I need to worry about. ;) I'm a big one, and NOTHING I had done previously ever made me feel good and/or kept my weight down. I have to say that around the time I began the program, two other sugar-sensitive friends of mine did, too. Sadly, they quit within weeks - looking for fast weight loss. I have seen them keep going from diet to diet and scheme to scheme in the last year - anything but taking it slow and doing the steps. My heart goes out to them; one of them is very overweight and has just kept gaining on her diets. I remember that quite well! I did it too for years no matter what I tried. So, I pray for my friends and for the other sugar sensitives out there that they will find this program, and if they have, that they will come to it ready to embrace it, rather than looking for quick weight loss. In September we moved from Vancouver, Canada to Mississippi; that's quite a move. I was on step 4, and I wobbled but I never lost the three meals I was doing or the detox I'd done from coffee. :) So, a few weeks ago, I tightened everything up, moving back to step 1. I'm again on step 3 and am enjoying it... almost ready to move to step 4. I have felt sane for the first time this past year. I have also felt happy to be alive again since I don't know when. I feel, for the first time in years, that my life has great possibilities. I am dreaming new dreams about every aspect of my life; I realize that age 30 has been the best age of my life so far, and that's thanks to this program. For now, I'm sitting quietly with those dreams and making some baby steps toward achieving them, gently. I want to thank Kathleen and all of you for making this possible with your support. I am working on doing the best program and life I can. Lisa G **********************************************************************
**Interesting Bits of Science**Well, this isn't science per se, but it sure is good news. This is the article about the proposed regulations for sugar labeling. **********************************************************************
**Notes from the Forum **Of course I want to know what the bird was. Here are mine: *waking up in my own bed after a week of travel *cuddling with our dogs on the couch *playing with my parrots after a week away *our cat being extra cuddly *lots and lots of hummingbirds on our feeder *hearing a Summer Tanager in our yard Allison Love these. Sunday for me: *pink roses and honeysuckles scents while I sat on the porch *seeing a gorgeous bird looking in the birdhouse *making applesauce Janice **********************************************************************
**Radiant Recovery® Store**The Blender Bottle people have hit a home run with their new product. We LOVE these. They include a blender bottle with the wire whisk ball and 2 containers. You can take your protein powder along with you, and pack some nuts as well and NEVER be stranded. Or you can get some powdered almond milk, put it in one container, put Restore in the other and get bottled water at the airport after you go through security.
Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better. **********************************************************************
**Radiant Kitchen**This is from my cookbook: PECAN TOPPED YAMS
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**Radiant Your Last Diet**Last Wednesday, I started presenting some new and very interesting ideas that will have some pretty intriguing consequences for the Weight Loss Resistant among us. I am piecing together data that has been around for a while but has new meaning when looked at through the filter of sugar sensitivity. If you haven't read the transcripts, make sure you do. This is the fun and the joy of being a YLD member - you get to preview things right out of the box. If you would like to join us in YLD, come find us here **********************************************************************
**Radiant Living**Well the Living chats were fabulous as well. I think the after-Ranch energy is streaming. We all got pretty excited to talk about how we experience spirituality as our programs develop. If you would like to join us in Radiant Living, come find us here **********************************************************************
**Another Look at Learned Helplessness**Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.
When you get hurt as a child, you get a big beta-endorphin response to protect you. It literally keeps you alive. And then as an adult you have intuitively found ways to recreate *safety* with sugar. Your body *remembers* that beta-endorphin means *safe* so you become very emotionally attached to your *comfort foods.* Sugar sensitive people are more attached to these foods, as we well know. And sugar sensitive people who have experienced childhood abuse are even more vulnerable. But here is what is even more intriguing. The body is flooded with beta-endorphin in the time of trauma or inescapable stress. These can be bad things happening like an accident, a death, a horrid boss, abusive situations or even traumatic stimuli like having your utilities turned off or your credit taken away. If you experienced the protection of the beta-endorphin flooding when you were little, these later adult experiences will recreate that powerful feeling of safety – even though on the outside it rationally seems as if these things are bad. You are drawn to them for the biochemical solace that comes with the release of beta-endorphin. Learned Helplessness So even the things that seem like they are really *bad* are actually hooking into a very old biochemical pattern of beta-endorphin protection. And if bad things happen enough, you will feel (just as it did when you were little) like there is no way out. You will feel overwhelmed, inadequate and without options – this is learned helplessness. The most incredible thing is that these feelings are biochemical. They are beta-endorphin mediated. When you use sugars, you are comforted for a little. Life seems more possible, options seems bigger. But you can’t find your way out because the optimism and hopefulness only lasts for a little bit – while the sugar induced beta-endorphin lasts. Or goes away and when you are in beta-endorphin withdrawal, the helplessness gets worse. A Way Out You stay in a downward spiral of hopelessness. The good news is that the Radiant Recovery plan can help you to get out of the destruction of learned helplessness. But in dealing with the bigger story, you have to make some adjustments. If you really want to be in the world in a new way, you will need to be very diligent about creating experiences to evoke the slow, healing beta-endorphin rather than the quick spikes that come from sugar. When you start getting better with the food, you reduce the priming from sugar. This is a good start. But unless you *add in* emotional experiences to recreate beta-endorphin (like exercise, prayer, meditation, dancing, puppies, kittens, good sex (relational intimacy), good food, etc.), your body will be seeking, seeking something to re-activate the beta-endorphin *safety* which you connect to being okay. You will drift back to old patterns which mirror the trauma. So you will pick a fight with a cop ;-), your husband, partner or mother. You will *forget* to pay your bills on time, you will double book appointments, or not pay your taxes. This is NOT a function of being screwed up so much as an unconscious attempt to find solace and safety. Unless you reform the patterns, learned helplessness will follow you tenaciously. And you reform the brain patterns by changing the food. Take care of the food and the rest will take care of itself. **********************************************************************
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