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January 11, 2016 Hi {!firstname_fix} It has been a quiet week of settling in. A little snow, some rain, some sun, snow on the mountains, many rescue dogs and lots of clearing clutter. Sometimes I get a wave of rescues that come in and out. This week I have a collection and I thought you might like to see what I do in my *spare* time. Starting from the left is Lulu, a 3-year-old whose owner died and she was left in a kennel for 4 months. When she arrived, she only hid, never ate, and had 62 pages of medical history. Now she is just skinny and is in love with Ronan, my dog. She gets to stay here until she is totally restored. Next to her is George, a Golden Cross who was found starving on the street, thrown away by someone who felt he was too much trouble. He is arthritic and is deaf. He is settled enough now that he is ready for a home. The blondie in the front was taken to a vet to be euthanized because he has giardia - a treatable parasite. I think they threw him away because he is a rowdy 6-month-old puppy who has never been trained. The other dogs are teaching him manners. Next to him is granny whose person is 84 and was moving into a nursing home. She has cancer and we are basically doing hospice care for her. And then behind her is my Ronan, Mr. Long Suffering who has been fine until the little one with ADD showed up. I told Ronan I agree and we will work on it together. As many of you know we have done a number of clutter classes. I received a copy of The Life Changing Magic of Clearing Clutter as a gift, and it has sparked me to ask the question, "does it bring joy?" as I sort my stuff. It has been life changing. She does not have a chapter on *dog clutter*. I might be writing that book. After much negotiation, things have gotten settled for both EuroRanch in March in Salisbury England, and US Ranch in Albuquerque in May. I have outlined our content and am developing our coloring books. One of the parents is talking with her teen about bringing him and asked for the *agenda*. This made me smile since much of the agenda is shaped by who comes to Ranch. We have an outline - this year it is on the art of finding one’s *best body* which means weight loss, muscle building, health or radiance...but the specifics are developed as the people arrive. Talk about *individually tailored*! But I am especially excited about Ranch here in May because for the first time, we will have complete control over the food and it will be catered by a person who knows the program inside and out. So you can come away for good company and not have to worry about what you are going to eat when. Make sure to catch the early bird tuition for US Ranch that runs through Friday. These classes will begin Wednesday, January 13, 2016. Please Signup and it will take you to the registration page:
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A number of you have asked me how the classes work. Check the class list page for more information on this. And please go read the questions and answers before you write to me. If you have trouble getting through the process, write the tech forum. See the Class Schedule here. Be sure to visit our Radiant Recovery website and Community Forum regularly. Warmly, Kathleen **********************************************************************
**Quote From Kathleen**Exercise is a crucial part of healing your sugar-sensitive body. Make time for it. **********************************************************************
**Testimonial of the Week**For example, my 6 1/2 year old's soccer game traditionally ends with different parents bringing snacks and drink. Even though 5 games ago coach said it would probably be best to bring some kind of chips and juice only... there have been candy bars, lollipops and the worst kinds of drinks I have ever seen, like those horrible sports drinks made with splenda and also the colored bug juice in those barrel shaped bottles. Every game, I tell Yuval, "It is your choice - I have an extra drink in the car for you and you can have a different snack at home." He gets very emotional and says it is his special day and he wants to eat the sweet snack because he never gets anything at home, ate a lot of protein at lunch, promises to behave, will have a shake after, a million good reasons. Agreed he would give up the drink if the snack has sugar too. Last game was Doritos and I let him drink 1/3 of the bottle of sugary drink because I didn't want him to cry and he said the chips are not sweet. We ignored the lollipops. There are only 3 more games this season, but this situation is bound to repeat itself. If it wasn't for the experiences of your families, I would be sure this could only get worse. Sarit Sarit - Here's what I have done. Just simply stated - we don't drink that and handed my child a fresh water bottle. They don't complain... ever, about the drinking water. If Yuval doesn't like water, add a bit of juice to it. Then little by little cut back on the juice. Or I sometimes make herbal iced tea, combination of red zinger, yellow zinger and some (not much) apple juice. In the case of the food - I let the chips go, thank the parent any way for the candy and when it's my turn to bring a snack I bring something really spectacular and watch the kids devour it! I've been known to bring fresh strawberries, fruit kabobs, blue chips, cheese and crackers artfully displayed, for all. And I always bring iced water bottles. My children get that the foods with chemical sweeteners are really awful for their brains. They have practically given my family members, including their grandparents, aunts and uncles, dissertations on what the chemicals do to their brains! Show Yuval the pictures of the spider webs in LSA. I bet he will get it. Of course, we parents always have to choose our battles - those are the ones I've chosen. They seem to be ingrained now. I wouldn't do it any different if I had to do it over again. Gail **********************************************************************
**Radiant Recovery® Store**We have a number of new people just starting out. They asked me what is the best information to help me know what to do. I always suggest getting the Complete Course CDs. Not only do they include a great discussion of the steps, but they talk about *What Else is Embedded in the Steps.* Hear Kathleen discuss what is under the food part, the core process changes they help you heal your addictive brain. Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better. **********************************************************************
**Radiant Kitchen**Here is a chicken recipe that is delicious and fancy enough to serve some guests. STUFFED CHICKEN BREASTS
Meanwhile, flatten each chicken breast by placing them between 2 sheets of wax paper or plastic wrap and pounding them with a mallet until about 1/4 inch thick. Spoon 1/4 of the mushroom/spinach mixture onto the center of each chicken breast. Roll lengthwise. Secure with toothpicks. Place rolled chicken breasts into a 9 inch square pan. Combine chicken broth with remaining 2 T. of olive oil. Spoon over chicken. Bake uncovered, basting frequently, until chicken is tender, about 15 - 20 minutes. Sprinkle with chopped parsley before serving (optional). Note: You can make the mushroom/spinach mixture the night before and refrigerate it. Let it come to room temperature before using. Then just start with pounding the chicken and filling, rolling and baking.
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**Radiant Your Last Diet**I have had a number of emails this week asking me about losing weight. Must be January! What book to read? Go off of sugar? How to start? The very best thing is to join YLD and come to chats. We will give you context and guidance about how the steps prepare you for weight loss, what things to do to get your body ready, and then what actions to take. It is all pretty straight forward. Ignore that old idea of weight as a function of calories, exercise and willpower. That won’t work for you. You have already tried it and you know you need something more. You are a diet expert. It is time to convert those skills into a plan that heals. This membership gives you everything you need to succeed at weight loss. There is NO failure in this program. There is no pressure, no stress, no yelling in your face. We think of this as a program for The Biggest Winner! Your program will include:
If you would like to join us in YLD, come find us here **********************************************************************
**Radiant Living**The special membership program is all about support for learning how to *live* as you move towards radiance. The stability of your food and the steps will form a foundation to bring you into a new way of living. We will talk about emotional sobriety, finding passion in your life, disarming things that get in the way, program maturation and, of course, spirituality. When we are caught in addiction, we stop growing, we get stuck and stay stuck. Our commitment to doing life without addiction has catapulted us into something unexpected. Radiant Living will allow you to share with others — people who are asking the same questions and exploring answers boldly and with the humility that comes with doing the food. These conversations will help you transform fear and give new tools for healing. We look at topics such as grief, crisis, trauma, emotional healing, revitalizing your program and stepping into your big self. The conversation will be about the big picture and the practical ideas for daily implementations of the changes you are seeking. The dialogue will meet you where you are and offer ideas that you may not have heard before. Let go of old thinking that growing up has to be hard or painful. This is about joy, discovery, fun and creativity. And, of course, LOTS of laughter. There is no step requirement to participate, only honesty, willingness and openness. We ask that you come when your food is steady and holding you. If you would like to join us in Radiant Living, come find us here **********************************************************************
**The Tools of Your Journey**Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.
Let’s spend a little time talking about the valuable tools of your journey — your journal and the lists of your process. Use that Journal The value of your journal comes in using it. When you really understand that your journal is the way your body talks with you, everything changes. If you only see your journal as a 'log' to record how well (or how poorly) you are doing, it will get really old fast. If you work with your journal as a living dialogue with your body, it will truly be a joy. You will want to write in it. Even more important, you will want to read it and use it to understand what your body needs. You may feel that the steps I have outlined are too simple. You may drift towards counting calories, towards recording grams. You may focus on tracking every little detail, but forget the relationship part. Remember Relationship Your body wants to be in relationship with you. It will show you the way by how you feel. If you are feeling better, things are working. If you aren’t, then you simply need to adjust your process and your food. But you can’t know the adjustments without your journal. If you came to my office for a private session, I would ask you to bring your journal. Here are the things we would look at together:
I was recently working with someone who is a little person. She weighs 118 and wants to weigh 110 (Stay with me. I know at first glance you may think you should have such problems — but the story is the same for all of us!). She is sugar sensitive and is doing YLD. She started having 3 cups of veggies at each meal. She felt she didn’t lose weight quickly enough (a clue — she is still in the numbers game ;-) ), so she added another cup of veggies. Her body is very smart. It said, 'I don’t think so!' She stopped losing weight and started feeling de-energized and off kilter. I blessed her body. It is so smart. It was talking to her! Her body wanted her to listen. She needed to do her food in a way that suited her body. We sorted it out. Less was better. And the plan started working again.
Yes, Yes, the potato is important And, I know you know that the potato is important. Or you may not. I am still getting mail from people who ask me, 'Are you sure you really want me to eat this?' 'It’s high glycemic!' 'Sugar Busters says that potatoes are BAD!' 'But, you aren’t supposed to eat before sleeping!' 'It’s more calories. I am going to gain weight!' Remember, we are changing your basic thinking about losing weight. We are up against years and years of conditioning here. Read the newsletter. Check on the forum. Talk about it with others doing the program. It’s important. Have your potato. Redefining the Focus I am sure you are connecting with my reasoning. You notice, at no time have I said, 'So how much do you weigh today?' If you are still focused on the scale, you aren’t focused on the relationship to your body. You will lose weight, I promise. But what I want most is for you to know, and most of all to love, your body. I want you to come to love that body — even while it is still fat, even when it is wrinkly and saggy (my apologies to you who are younger ;-) ), even when it is still learning about exercise. This body has served you diligently. Through all those years of abuse, being forgotten, living in shame, being hidden, your body has waited and wanted to talk with you. And I guarantee, if you come home to it, it will respond with a degree of cooperation which will shock you. Your body loves you. Even if you haven’t loved it — it adores you and wants to serve you. Spend time, listen to it. The journal is your body’s voice. Literally, think of that when you write in your journal. Think of that when you read your journal. Your body’s voice. Relationship! Finally. If You Listen, Your Body Will Speak. **********************************************************************
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