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COMMUNITY FORUM
Share with others, ask questions, explore everything and anything about your program without a charge.
GROUPS
Learn the steps, get fit safely, learn creative program cooking, learn about depression, learn with parents, share in local areas. There is no charge for groups.
CLASSES
We are starting the second round of the Return to Radiance Class. The pause helped me regroup. Thank you!
HEALING FAT TERROR
Many of the people coming into the program bring a long history of dieting and a profound sense of pain about weight. Even though you have been trained to not talk about it and to act as if everything is all right, the fact is the pain still simmers under the surface. And is often the biggest impediment
to successfully doing the program. This class will be thoughtful and intense. But very healing! It will be for 4 weeks with a specific curriculum. Look under weight loss to find it.
We will start this class when we have 8 people signed up.
LEARNING TO JOURNAL
This is a completely new and revised guide for learning how to journal successfully. It is open to every level of experience - from brand new beginners. to experienced Step 7s. We will approach the art of journaling with a sense of joy. How to do it and how to USE it. If you have struggled with journaling, this is the time to grab a class and really learn it. This is a 2 week class that will be very focused.
Those of you who have been in chat have had a preview of what we are going to cover. It will be exhilarating!
I will not be doing this class again for six months.
WORKING WITH KATHLEEN
I feel very strongly about offering you a way to work with me directly. I have set up a whole range of options for you to do that - going from private coaching to being involved in small groups. This link will show you all the choices.
Signature Coaching is for those who want to work individually with Kathleen in a 90-day process. Signature is the top of the line. All who have done it talk about their lives being changed.
You can always call 505-345-3737 and ask me about how each one works.
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"Doing the food is at the heart of everything. You cannot imagine how much will change."
I am feeling all kinds of happy with myself because in June I messed up my Step 6 due to poor planning, all my meal times went out the window, my snacking returned, etc, and now I have been to a family party with my Emergency Meal (that I hadn't really thought I'd need, but brought it anyway thank goodness),
and then a couple of days later I went for a three day visit with my daughter-in-law and little grandchildren while my son was at a business conference. I brought my own food and stayed with my program! I even wrote in my journal every meal! Good for me!
Getting back to replies about the Emergency Meal: yes, banana would make it taste better. I'll have to try it. Good idea!
Husbands: my darling husband went to the party with me (the one with cookies, brownies, ice cream, Chinese food, and everything being served at various times) and he ate everything they served. The next day he had a royal headache, allergies acting up...he's been eating what I've been eating at home, you see.
When I realized what was wrong, I got him a banana, encouraged him to drink a lot of water and eat fruit with every meal (as a former Step 6er I don't have many sweets around). Now he knows I'm not the only one with a sensitivity! (lol) Plus he has a lot of compassion for the old days. "Is this how you felt when you were on the couch?" "Yes." "It's horrible! How did you stand it?" "I didn't. That's why I was on the couch." (Now he can understand why various relatives do what they do to avoid
feeling like that. One day when we're radiant I hope they'll try RR.)
On the trip I brought Ezekial bread, oatmeal, cottage cheese, hard-boiled eggs, cans of tuna, salmon, garbanzo beans, and even frozen vegetables (in a cooler with ice). I was determined to assume nothing. I figured the worst that would happen is my dil would have extra groceries in the house. I also brought
George's Jr shake, which I left behind for her to use on my dear ss son who can be pretty grouchy in the morning. I suggested that she just do what I did: hand him a shake. If he drinks it, he drinks it. If not, she can have it.
Something I've learned from this community is that we are not weak. We have bodies that are a special challenge to us, and we have the courage to face it and work with it. I learned that it is not weakness to spend the day after I got home taking it easy and not expecting too much of myself. My body needs what
she needs and I can't run her ragged without consequences. I love the fact that we do this program in steps. It isn't all or nothing. If it all comes apart, we can start at Step One and gradually add back the steps until we're better again. In June all the old sugar feelings returned, and I didn't think I'd get better, I just did the steps because I didn't know what else to do. Now I feel stronger than ever. That feeling of having a spotlight on me with everyone watching me seems to be going
away, too.
It's good to be back!
Lora
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This is David, your Radiant Recovery® Concierge
Come visit our STORE. Call 505-345-3737 if you have questions.
David, the store manager, is always happy to help.
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I am just starting the steps. Should I join now or wait till I am ready to lose weight?
Join now! We have found that the people who come to chats do the best with the steps. The connection in chat is awesome. You get a chance to talk with the old timers, you can ask questions and Kathleen is right there to guide you. It really is an incredible opportunity.
If you are not a member yet, come and join us. If you are a current member and want to join us in the new chat room, come to the landing page. We will send you the pass words after you join.
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Numbers
Kathleen DesMaisons, PhD
That is what the brown part of my breakfast looks like :). Eggs or shake goes with it. Winter breakfast! As we are doing the journaling class, we are thinking about step enhancement ;) One of the class members ranked the quality of each step as a 90% or 100%. Then she averaged the seven steps to
get a sense of how she was doing. Her average was 90%.
Connie chimed in and said that kind of math doesn't work in this instance. She talked about how the steps are cumulative. And that when you did the math a different way, the actual score was 68%.
Some of us, including me, said, *WHAT are you talking about! * I asked her to try again. Intuitively, I knew she was onto something. But this explanation is a winner.
A quick Google search didn't show up any high-level intro explanations of quality and reliability in steps, so I'll just make up an example. First, I'll use one for an everyday manufacturing process, and then I'll talk about our 7 steps.
For the everyday manufacturing, say Connie decides to make a DVD about Warrior Wellness. The steps to get the DVD from the manufacturer to the person, are:
- DVD maker sends the DVDs to Connie's mail room
- Connie takes orders from the net and gets them ready to ship
- The shipper, say the US mail, ships to the person
- The person gets it
- The person can play it! yay!
What we want is, 100% of the DVDs getting from the manufacturer to the person. But let's say each step has 10% problems:
- 10% of the DVDs get squished when Connie drops the box in her mail room to sign the invoice
- 10% of the addresses entered on Connie's web site are off somehow
- 10% of the people's mailboxes are ripped off from local drug guys stealing identities, and they rudely toss the DVD
- 10% of the CDs don't work in the person's DVD player somehow (Connie has el cheapo manufacturer)
You'd think, well okay, each step is 90% there, so my customers should be 90% happy right? But let's follow 100 DVDs.
- After Connie drops the box of DVDs, there are 90 DVDs on the way to the customer. (90% of 100)
- After step 2, wrong mail address, there are 80 DVDs (90% of 90 DVDs)
- After step 3, the mail theft, there are 72 DVDs on the way to the customer. (90% of 80)
- After step 4, unplayable DVDs, there are 63 DVDs that actually get to the customer. (90% of 72)
So of those 100 DVDs starting out, only 63 got to my customer. That makes a "reliability" of 63% for the end-to-end process. But I thought each step was 90% ! well, it is. Still, if what I want is DVDs to customers, I find a way to tighten those steps.
This happens to EVERY process where the later steps depend on the reliability of the earlier steps.
What I think is hard to understand until it's experienced, is that our steps really truly DO depend on each other. No one else in the diet world talks about this and that's why they all say, make these zillion changes all together.
And, our steps each have smaller steps, so imagine the opportunities to get a little off. Here's just ONE path.
- Breakfast. Protein is 90% of what it needs to be.
- Journal. Writing 90% down, but maybe the 10% not written, is what happened after breakfast with light protein! So now I lost a little feedback.
- 3 meals, 90%. Lunch had "justa" whites and it was early. Somehow I was "extra hungry" today but I don't make the connection to breakfast.
- Vitamins. 90%. I ran out of vitamin C days ago and keep forgetting to pick some up. Hence, my food is not metabolized quite as well. I'm a little hungry.
- Browns. 90%. By dinner I feel off and resentful and have my browns and then some.
- Sugars. 90%. More justas. I make the family a program-friendly dessert and have more of it than is appropriate for my plan right now.
For me, this would be a day for overeating either at dinner or at spud time. I might THINK "oh, my program is 90% on" but, that evening sure FEELS like a not-so-good, only 50% radiant day, and sure enough, the idea of multiplying instead of averaging, matches what I'm feeling.
Connie
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