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September 5, 2016 Hi {!firstname_fix} I always LOVE Sept 1. For some reason it has felt like a renewal date for me...a new beginning perhaps. Maybe it was because it was the time we went to the office supply store for the school stuff, or maybe there was something more cosmic, but it always made such an impact on me. I am continuing the process of clearing clutter...both at home and here in the community. If things are not being used, then it is time for release. I have observed that for the most part we are not using the local geographical lists. I think it is time for us to take them down and not have things left with an expectation of doing something that we are not. If a list has had no discussion on it for more than a year, I will be taking it down over the next week. I also am reviewing the focus and direction of some of the lists that have always been around but may be outdated or may need to regroup. Those of you who are on some of those lists will be hearing a *renewal* conversation moving through. I think that our community has matured and deepened. We are not in the same place we were ten years ago, and we all will be well served by asking what it is we want and need now. Also, since almost no one has expressed an interest in the New cooking class, I am going to hold on that until January and see what happens. We are putting two new YLD options in place. I am going to work on being more clear and more direct about my vision and what I can realistically do or provide. I know that my work in some of the classes has been uneven which is not good for either you or me. I have worked on setting up a system that will ensure the classes work better and more efficiently in a consistent way. Expect changes there as well. This class will begin Wednesday, September 7, 2016. Please Signup and it will take you to the registration page:
This class will begin Wednesday, September 14, 2016. Please Signup and it will take you to the registration page:
Check the class list page for more information on how the classes work. See the the Class Schedule here. Be sure to visit our Radiant Recovery website and Community Forum regularly. Warmly, Kathleen **********************************************************************
**Quote From Kathleen**As you learn to handle new situations, as you learn to recover from a slip, you will become smarter and savvier each time. **********************************************************************
**Testimonial of the Week**When I want a treat, I usually eat out. And I get steak or lobster...with a baked potato with all the fixings and a salad. Or I might grab one of my hamburger buns that are truly brown and get a great big juicy burger. Some places I will ask them to use my bun (they put it on the grill for a bit), and some places I just switch buns after the plate arrives. Elaine **********************************************************************
**Interesting Bits of Science**
But we don't really talk about what is behind it. When I was looking at this picture, I was thinking about the whole box of citations I read for the soy story. There they are, with highlighters and notes and trying to make sense of something so complex and contradictory. This is what I want most to give you - a trustworthy, informed and thoughtful response to these issues. I want to offer a way to ask questions reflectively and then to sort through understanding how to make choices. I guess we might call it empowerment. Let me show you what I mean. Many of us deal or struggle with being fat. The first level of looking at this was why. Why is it that some of us have to work so hard? Why is it that what *they* tell us does not fit, does not work? So I put up the original YLD program which was kind of an outline of the questions and the things I knew at that time. It was more behavioral, and an adaptation of the sugar sensitive story based on what seemed to make sense. Then my publisher said, *Ok, let's do a book.* I adapted that original material and wrote Your Last Diet. It was very substantive. A year of my desk looking like that picture. But it was not sexy, nor did it lend itself to sound bites. My editor left and the new person assigned to the book was slender, into exercise and not particularly invested in fat people. But we were still doing the program. I started a little pilot project. We played with some of the ideas. We dug deeper to find solutions and practical stuff. But it was really grim and really rather boring. So we didn't talk about it much. I kept thinking, there has to be more. It wasn't having *information* - that didn't grab us. So I figured I would design a class and look to the experiential to see what might emerge. We started off and I asked people to share how they felt about being fat. The stories blew me away. I have run groups for twenty five years, I don't usually get dumbfounded. But those stories were full of so much anguish, so much pain, and such consistency that I literally could not talk for days. I felt I was swirling in the pain of a people, people who do not speak this pain. people who are hidden and silent and desperate and trying each new diet. We kept going. I asked for a list of every diet. The list grew and grew and grew until we were laughing so hard it hurt. People began to see that this is not a personal story, a story hidden in shame, but that somehow there was more to it. Something bigger than we understood. Then I said, what if this list was about skill rather than failure. The class said *WHAT!, Whatever do you mean?* We began to talk about what is there underneath the pain. That is wasn't failure, it was biochemistry. We just didn't know. And now we do. And just like sugar sensitivity, the stories started to transform. Instead of spinning, spinning, we could ask, what is here to learn, how can I make sense of this? How can I understand the biochemistry of being fat and then use that to craft a way of healing? So, the research became in service to the lived experience and the lived experience became the way to make the research come alive. Instead of a bunch of mice in a lab, it became our friend, the C57s who are teaching us why we have fat stomachs and why exercise might not work for us as we expect. It is this marriage of science and life that makes this community so alive and vital. You guys make it burst from the pages into real life. You make the highlighters shine, even sing. Your stories, your truth, your lives make the citations come alive. And my oh my, is it exciting. It feels like Holy Moley, Batman, we KNOW this story, we LIVE it. Watch us rock! **********************************************************************
**Radiant Recovery® Store**
Sometimes people ask me why we carry CetylM in the store. Kathleen went to a trade show a few years ago. She watched these two videos of Jap. At the time, I had just moved to Albuquerque and my large Rottweiler was about 8 years. He had terrible arthritis and could hardly walk. Kathleen was blown away by the videos and said, *we have to get this stuff for your dog.* So we ordered some. In 3 weeks he was like a puppy. He was running all around. We have carried this ever since.Click the following to view video. See JAP (Just A Puppy) before Cetyl M®(5MB, 489kbps)See JAP (Just A Puppy) after Cetyl M®(3MB, 489kbps) 
They also make a product for people called CMResponse. Everyone who has tried it has said it works way better than glucosamine. You can go here if you want to learn more about Cetyl M.Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better. **********************************************************************
**Radiant Kitchen**This is a recipe I invented. I love that you can bake it all in one dish. Baked Tilapia, Broccoli and Potatoes
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**Radiant Your Last Diet**Lots of changes and updates are happening with YLD. I have listed above the new free classes we are starting this week. I think they will give all of you a much better understanding of what YLD is and how it can benefit you. As part of this, we will also be setting up a specific schedule for the weight loss classes. This will allow you to plan what you want to take, when. It will give you a much more structured opportunity to think through the sequence of things you want to learn. Remember that the YLD classes will only be open to YLD members, so if you want to be a part of this exciting new approach to weight loss, come and see if this is the place for you. The classes include such things as Obesity Myth, Healing Shame, Fat Terror, Fitness for Weight Loss, Emotional Healing, Designing a Best Brown Plan, Confronting Carb Phobia and Weight Loss in Action. I originally set YLD up to provide a safe place for people who are grappling with weight and body image. I was recently speaking with my daughter about her own designing a fitness and weight loss plan. She said, *Well, I can just read the book.* it made me realize that while what I wrote in the YLD book was wonderful and spot on, we have in fact learned so much more than I knew then. YLD, the program, gives us a chance for a new edition of the knowledge base. I want you to know it, share it and also have support in doing it. We will keep talking. If you would like to join us in YLD, come find us here **********************************************************************
**Radiant Living**Radiant Living continues to be the place for *life* questions, reflections and joys. If you want to talk about things other than *food* this is the place for it. Although I must admit that sometimes we just can't help ourselves and we burst into vegetable talk. it is a really fun place. If you would like to join us in Radiant Living, come find us here **********************************************************************
**More on LUNCH**Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.
This article comes from an excerpt in Little Sugar Addicts. I originally wrote it for parents who are dealing with their children. However, as I am doing a lot of thinking about lunch, I thought it would be fun for all of us. I am actually going to post that list on my own refrigerator (smile). Before we talk about what to put in the other two meals of the day, let me share a little about the idea behind lunch and dinner for children. The most important rule is eating on time. Most sugar sensitive parents have trouble with regular meals on time. I mean this very kindly. You get distracted or involved or busy and you “forget” that it is 11:30 and your child needs to eat lunch. You figure the snack will tide her over and she will be fine. You know that you can push yourself a little more and just finish up. That may be true for your grownup body; it is not true for your child. So, step 4 means having to pay attention to time. I know, you thought I was going to say you have to pay attention to food. Yep, that too. But first, let’s do time. Children really cannot go more than about 3 hours without eating. Your parent job is to make sure they have food on time. It is funny; most parents think the contents of the meals are the most crucial. They get very motivated and start thinking about what to feed their children and don’t really factor in when. The more I talk with sugar sensitive parents, the more aware I have become about when. Let’s start with this. Think about the children who eat at home with you. This will be little ones who are not in day care and most of them on the weekends. Do a quick review and see if time is an issue for you. What are your typical routines? Do you even know when your children eat lunch? Start with what is easiest in making a time change. It may be weekends or it may be the during the week routine. Spend a week and see if you can get all the lunch times you have control over within the same 30-minute period every day. Just try this and talk with your children as you are. Get a sense of what supports this and what messes up your plan. Just as we have done with everything we are doing, knowing what gets in the way will give you choices about what you need to do to make this successful. Marty always gets in trouble on Saturday. She takes the kids out to do Saturday errands. She has just one more thing to do and pushes the time edge until her kids are falling off the cliff. One boy starts getting wild at 3.5 hours. The other starts to whine at 3 hours. Her daughter gets pale and quiet. Suzanne is fine with her kids on the weekend, but has a terrible time during the week. She works out of her home and gets on the phone - 11 becomes 12:30 in a flash. She has sweet kids; they are very cooperative and don’t whine or create a problem. She just didn’t notice that they got pale and lay down on the couch at 11:30. She just thought they were being good. Many parents really have to work on this one. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Talk with your children and see if you all can identify ways to have everyone help remember time. Set an alarm clock. Give the 5 year old a digital watch so he can come remind you. Write out the schedule and put it on the refrigerator. If every one goes off to school, plan for the weekends. Talk about lunch at breakfast time. What are the plans? Where? When? And then, of course, what? Lunch needs to have the same amount of protein as for breakfast. By now, you and your kids know the protein drill. Sit down with your kids and talk about lunch options. Be very specific. If they have fast food choices at school, have THEM sort out which choices will work. They may discover that they need a supplemental protein package. Talk with them about what will work. Here are some ideas for wraps
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