February 5 ,2017

Hi {!firstname_fix}, 

A lot of change has happened for the people in the leadership of our community. You may not realize this but there are about 20 of us who volunteer to look after the community. This means that every list has at least one mentor to offer guidance and safety. They listen, answer questions and help people understand the norms we use in offering support. This means we work to create a culture of listening and learning.

We talk together each week and once a month get together for a *social* chat online to catch up and learn what everyone is up to and how we are doing despite the flu, or moving or inlaws visiting or health stuff. Some of the mentors have been here since the beginning so we have seen a lot and gone through a lot of change. Today was our social day and quite unexpectedly we got into a rather deep discussion about how old emotional wounding can affect present day reactions. 

Even more interesting was an exploration of how doing the food creates so much change. When our food is steady, life feel very different. It feels manageable and geared for problem solving. When it is not, we get stuck and cranky and fearful. The challenges of the past few months have affected all of us, so it was wonderful to talk about regrouping and what we are cooking. It often feels as if we are in the front room with a fire going and the women from the UK have made tea and curried chicken salad, LOL. (note this week's recipe).

It was a nice way to start the week. And we talked about how we can bring this tenderness and healing to all of you. Don't forget your best breakfast and your trusty journal!


Upcoming Classes
These classes will begin Wednesday, February 8, 2016. Please Signup and it will take you to the registration page:

Step Three

Step three is the key step of all. It is the step for getting steady and it is way harder than most people think when they start.  We have changed our step classes and are doing them right in the Step group. You don't have to sign up for a separate classroom and there is no charge for this class. This class was slated to start last week, but had a late start so if you forgot to get over there, you have another chance.

This class is ongoing. You may join at any time.

Coaching for Weight Loss

This is a new offering for people who are serious about losing weight and would like to have ongoing coaching. We do an individual assessment to sort out exactly where you are in the process. You will be guided in making your own individual plan. You can learn about journaling and adjusting your food for weight loss - what to do when. You can look at things to do to start while you are actually working the steps. This is not Boot Camp. You will be given tools and shown how to use them.

The fee is $20 per week and is billed in 2 week intervals. It is an unusual opportunity to work directly with Kathleen to be liberated from your past diet history. The signup is under the *special* tab on the classes page.


This class will begin February 15, 2017

Using the Resources of the Community Please Signup and it will take you to the registration page:

This FREE class will teach you all the ins and outs of the resources in the community. You will learn to navigate the community forum, learn how to use the resource center, check out Radiant Ranch, and learn your way around the website. You will be on your way with an invaluable resource in your pocket!
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Oh my is the program deceptive. Seven simple steps and a lifetime of miracles.
 

Testimonial of the Week

I'm glad Ethelred brought this up. I've been meaning to comment on the 'being stuck' chats. I'm one who stayed stuck at step 2 for a year and a half. For me this means I was solid on breakfast that entire time. I journalled sporadically - on for several weeks then lapsing, then back on again. I made forays into step three, would see progress, then school would start or whatever and throw my schedule off. I read the forum and this list regularly and went to chats but didn't post or participate.


So why couldn't I get on with it? Isolation, fear and sloppy intention. I was truly afraid of how my life might have to change if I were happy and sane. In the meantime things had improved a lot. I was able to stop taking the antidepressant I'd been on for 10 years. I pretty much stopped yelling at my kids. My anger and rage were greatly reduced. I gradually, without effort reduced candy consumption to almost nothing (candy was my sugar of choice). I could stand my life. I wasn't desperate so I was sloppy because it was easier.


So what happened to get me going? First, Kathleen told someone that if they were having so much trouble with their journal (I don't remember the details) they should move on to step 3. This was a revelation! I could move on as long as I kept trying to journal. Second, Kathleen posted about 'the step 7 dilemma' how we see things differently with radiance and sometimes have to make big changes in our lives. I copied it down and read it over and over. That was in the summer I think, and by fall I knew that fear and isolation were holding me back. I kept hearing in my head Kathleen saying "you cannot heal in isolation"


I did a 90/90 posting on the forum to get out of isolation and get step 3 going and steady. It worked. I was starting step 4 when the 'life event' happened and I stayed at 3 and slowly the journal started getting sloppy again. I posted my journal for a while and got the potato going. Then something shifted. My commitment went to another level. It was like, "let's just do this" No big fanfare. Just 'doing it'


The next chat I went to was the 1st 'being stuck, and just doing it' one. Pretty cool, I thought. So now my journal is steady, step 3 is steady, step 4 is steady. I am reading up on step 5 and thinking of what it will require of me. I cook ahead. I don't run out of potatoes and some are cooked ahead. I find myself needing vegetables with lunch and dinner.


So do I have a point here? Even though I was "stuck" for a long time, I'm not sure it was a bad thing. I was in a pretty steady place emotionally when I did start to move on. I don't know what could have gotten me moving sooner. Maybe knowing that I didn't have to love the journal, that I could do step 3 and 2 at the same time. Definitely, connecting would have made a difference. After all, you can't give me a nudge if you don't know I'm here.


In the end I think I just had to come to the realization that this - Radiance, a step7 life - is what I want. More than anything else. More than being lazy, or careless, or mindless when it comes to food. To realize that how I feel and how I am in this world is worth more to me than the passing pleasure of sugar, whites, and grazing. I guess maybe we all get to this place in our own time and our own way.


Thanks for listening,

Janice in Maryland 

 
Radiant Recovery Store
 

Hello, my name is David. I figured we have so many new people, I better reintroduce myself here. Many of you have talked with me when you have called the Radiant Recovery Store at 505-345-3737. I am thrilled to be working with my Mom to make the store work for you. This is the best of family business in more ways than one.

 

This week, it makes sense to remind you of of an incredible product that can support your program:

 

Gammazyme is a specialized enzyme product for people who have problems with their gut. If you have bloating or discomfort after you eat., enzymes might help. Digestive enzymes are great for sugar sensitive people, but the protease can be a problem if your gut is inflamed. Gammazyme doesn't have protease so it is very gentle.  Digestive enzymes mean YOU get more nutrition extracted from your food.

 

Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better. 
 
 
Radiant Kitchen

 Curried Chicken Salad

  • 3 c. cooked chicken, cubed (I use a rotisserie chicken and pull it apart)
  • 3 hard-boiled eggs, chopped (I get hard  boiled eggs from Costco)
  • 1 1/2 c. sugar-free mayonnaise
  • 1 Tbsp. curry powder or to taste (I use Penzey's sweet curry, you might like something a little hotter)
  • 1/2 tsp. garlic powder
  • 1/2 c. fresh orange segments
  • 1/2 c. sliced scallions
  • 1/2 c. sliced black olives
  • 1/2 c. chopped cilantro
  • 1/2 c. chopped pecans or almonds
  • 1/4 tsp. salt or to taste
  • 1/4 tsp. black pepper or to taste
 
Combine all ingredients. Serve immediately or refrigerate up to 3 days. Good over mixed greens as main course salad or as sandwich filling. For vegetarian version, substitute baked tofu (cubed) or tempeh for the chicken. Makes 4 servings.

The fun part of this recipe is adapting it to your taste. That means you can apples or celery.  You can put this on greens or  mix it with brown rice. It really is delicious.

 

 
 For great program-friendly recipes, check out our Cookbook in the store and visit our online Radiant Recipes site.
 
Radiant YLD
Radiant Your Last Diet in an online program is based on my book, Your Last Diet! It is the only weight-loss program especially for sugar-sensitive people. It addresses YOUR unique body and brain.

Its funny, I say over and over and over about the idea of HEALING first. And people who are just starting out just do not get that part. They see *DIET!* rather than LAST.  It is such a different approach, that it takes a bit to wrap your mind around it.

The 4 phases of Your Last Diet healing are:
  1. Weight Loss Readiness
  2. Healing
  3. Action and Weight Loss
  4. Staying Steady
This membership gives you everything you need to succeed at weight loss. There is NO failure in this program. There is no pressure, no stress, no yelling in your face. We think of this as a program for The Biggest Winner! Your program will include:
  • People who understand and mentor you
  • A dedicated list on Yahoo with my personal participation
  • Access to a dedicated chat that I lead. It is held at 2 different times each week so it is accessible to people all over the globe
  • Access to classes specific to weight loss
The most incredible part of the program is being able to come to chat. You can hear step 7 people do problem solving and you get a chance to talk with me directly.

If you would like to join us in YLD, come find us here
 
Radiant Living

Radiant Living is all about support for learning how to *live* as you move towards radiance. The stability of your food and the steps will form a foundation to bring you into a new way of living. We will talk about emotional sobriety, finding passion in your life, disarming things that get in the way, program maturation and, of course, spirituality. When we are caught in addiction, we stop growing, we get stuck and stay stuck. Our commitment to doing life without addiction has catapulted us into something unexpected.


Radiant Living will allow you to share a dialogue with others – people who are asking the same questions and exploring answers boldly and with the humility that comes with doing the food. 


If you would like to join us in Radiant Living, come find us here.
 
Making Change

Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.



Every week, I get many letters from people who feel inadequate, overwhelmed, fat, out of control and unable to do the program. Or I get letters from people who feel buffeted by the stress in their lives. People have died, work is demanding, no time, no space, no capacity to “do” anything but get by.


And each time I say, “These feelings are caused by being out of balance. The stress does not create the feelings, your biochemistry does.” When you are balanced, you respond to stress differently, it becomes functional rather than overwhelming. You stand in the center of the swirl with a sense of calm and clarity about priorities and demands. And when you are not balanced, that idea seems totally off the wall.


When you are in the middle of what I call sugar feelings, you will be reactive and feel done to. You will feel like a victim. You will feel like you can do nothing right. And of course it seems like these feelings are REAL because it is what you feel. And when you feel that way, you need something to help you hold them, so you get ice cream and soda. And you feel better for a little while. Life is manageable for a few minutes and you are seduced into thinking that this is comfort. But what you think is comforting you is the cause of what you are feeling. It is a deadly, seductive dance.


When you are in that place, the idea of the “program” seems totally overwhelming. No, you cannot give up sugar. No, you cannot manage to plan anything. I just don’t get it! You feel it is just too big and too unattainable. It is too much so you need to just give up and feel that nothing will work.


So, here is the bottom line. This program can not only save your life, it can transform it. It can make you clear and steady. It can give you a platform for losing weight. But it cannot work its magic unless you do it. And you do not have to do it all at once. You do not have to be perfect or rigorous or disciplined. You can come, you can whine, you can stumble. But if you show up, you ask for help and you listen, and then you follow instructions, things will change.


Sugar sensitive people are notorious for not listening. We think we know it better. We think that we are unique, a special case and the plain ole boring do the steps slowly and in order does not really fit our situation. That way of thinking has to go. If you want what we have, do what we do. We do the steps. We have breakfast every morning, on time. We journal. We eat meals on time. We have enough protein for our body. We take the vitamins and eat the potato. We eat whole grains and we do not have sugar. We are funny, focused and purposeful.


And we are NOT different from you. We were there in that dark, horrible place. Every single one of us, including me, has been there. And it is a place we do not want to go back to. The way out was not magic. It was showing up and “doing”. Doing breakfast, doing journal. Doing potato. One choice at a time. One day at a time.


As I said last week, “Nodding will not heal you.” Agreement will not make change. Commitment makes change. You do not have to live that way any more. Come on over and let’s do this together.



The mountain moving day has come. 
 
 
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