I am leaving those candles up because I really, really like them.
Tom wrote this to one of the lists. I asked him if I could quote him because it really touched me.
I think he is onto a key issue - spending time in the *process* of recovery rather than thinking about rushing to some end.
"I get what you're saying. I read your post and it makes a lot of sense. I guess
this kinda comes back to take your time and enjoy the ride. If all we are
concerned with is getting to
point *a* we miss the whole journey of getting
there. I am quite guilty of that. I do that quite a lot with things in my life, and
I believe to an extent that is why time seems to fly by for me. It is going
way too fast. When I was building my business, I kept my eyes on the day of
looking to when it would be built. And looking back, I missed the whole building
part which could've been fun. I am doing this same thing with the program, I
keep looking at the day when I'm
going to be really healed, and I am missing a lot
of the journey. I'm glad you brought this up, it makes me aware of this. I need
to flow more as you put it. I can see the need for a balance between the two."
This means enjoying the art of step one when you are on step one. Really learning about breakfast, making things you really love, planning
breakfast, finding a shake you really look forward to having, making a meal that suits you, having it on time and having it anywhere you might travel to.
Then, as you progress, you enjoy, truly enjoy the step you are on. This means thinking about journaling rather than about sugar. Or thinking about lunch rather than bingeing. Or about breakfast rather
than being out of control.
This is actually the crux of the program - getting you latched on to the solution rather than swirling in the problem. Doesn’t this make sense? It is still true even for me after all this time.