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We have a master community email list. It is nice place to get started if you are new to the community or are coming back and are wondering
what to do. Introduce yourself and ask for help. Or just listen. We won't mind. The community is made up of a huge number of introverts which means LISTENING is held in high esteem. We will direct you to the right spot for your questions. It's fine if you know nothing, just stop in and you will be welcomed Join it now.
GROUPS
The groups list is up on the web site. Just sign up for the group you would like to join. Read about the group before you ask to join. If you are starting or returning, join the Step One list. Don't join Step One and Step Two and Step Three all at the same time. If you. have any trouble joining, send me an email at kathleen@radiantrecoverycom and we will get you all set.
CLASSES
Fat Terror: This class gets to the heart of the feeling that some many come to the program with. The pain of being overweight, the fear of gaining weight, the obsession of having to be thin to be all right, you know the whole package. This will be a 2 week class done by email
so you do not have to be in one place at a specific time. It is a great way to explore hard feelings in a safe and comforting way. I will put a sign up button in the next week or so.
Running a bit late on that <smile>...I think it is COVID time warp. It seems as if time is racing by at warp speed and meandering like cold molasses - both at the same time. I have no idea what to make of it and certainly have not mastered it.
JOIN US ON FACEBOOK
If you prefer talking on Facebook, come over to our group there. Radiant Recovery®,.
WORKING WITH KATHLEEN
People have been asking for a long time how they might be able to work with me directly. I provide individual one on one intensive coaching called Signature Coaching. I can help you step out of the craziness of sugar addiction, return to steadiness and clarity after slipping away, slow down and focus on your recovery, or deepen a steady rhythm of recovery. This particular option is especially helpful if you did the steps a while ago and then kinda meandered away. Or if you are facing some intense times and would. like skillful
support.
Signature coaching offers several options. Most people do a 3 month process that includes doing an in-depth assessment of where you are in the process, designing an individual plan for you and then talking with me once a week via phone or Zoom to work on your progress. You will learn to do an efficient journal and to
identify your strengths and challenges.
Other people chose to do a month long intensive to get a sense of whether the process is suited to their style. And some people continue to work beyond the initial 3 months in special arrangements we work out for their budget and progress. All signature
coaching starts with an initial assessment meeting at no charge to you. This time allows us to collaborate on the best way to work with your food and style.
This is the way to step out of feeling overwhelmed with where to start and what to do. Because it is so individualized, we can work on what is right for you at this point in your journey. People tell me that coaching
helps them feel safe and focused. We work with your style, your rhythm. This is a unique opportunity to release your fear and let go of shame.The guidance can shorten and ease your process so that in 3 months you will do what you might take a year to do on your own. Signature coaching is also an excellent way to tackle any special needs you may have. like wanting to get sober, or dealing with insulin resistance, or integrating doing the
food with special medical concerns.
And in fact, we have developed some creative personalized plans especially suited to where people are in the program and what will work best to support them.You can go here to learn more about it. Call 505-345-3737 if you would like more information. I am ALWAYS happy to talk
to. you about options.
Sign up for Signature Coaching
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"You may be surprised to discover that food has a bigger emotional charge for you than you realized."
Testimonial for the Week
Sunday I had the house to myself because the daughters went to the beach. When Cathy (the older one) came by to pick up Margie, she found us in the middle of a hilarious discussion. Margie was doing her comic routine and mimicing again.
This time she was mimicing what happens when her friends come over after school and look in the fridge for something to eat. Inside are either whole-foods ingredients like kale and unflavored yogurt, or strange-looking leftovers (my spinach-and-pumpkin quiche). She says they say, "oh I'm not that hungry" and then close the door. So then they roam to the pantry and what is there are things like canned salmon, turmeric
and two-year-old coconut milk from some experiment I planned. So the friend gets this sad look on her face and leaves the kitchen.
So then Cathy comes in and said she dropped by the other day to raid the fridge and hm, that pumpkin pie looks good - but why does it have green in it!!! eeew!!
They laughed their heads off. But then we talked about how different it is to do homemade whole foods as opposed to having convenience food around all the time.
And then we did some problem-solving so Margie could feel like a better hostess. We came up with nuts, fruit, HFS chips and salsa, good PB&J, good sandwiches. Margie asked how she could recognize "healthy" alternatives of things to have so we talked just a little about labels. This is a big deal because she hates with a passion when I read labels too much while shopping.
Too funny.
Connie
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David, my oldest son, runs our store. He makes sure your orders go out quickly and works with you to find the best things suited to where you are in your process.
Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better.
Welcome to all the new people! If you are just getting started, my suggestion is to order some Restore, a Journal and a copy of the cookbook. The cookbook has the. most incredible information in it - not stuff that is in the books. I actually even use it myself LOL.
Thank you for your continued support of Radiant Recovery® and the store. If you have any questions, you are welcome to call me at the office.
Come visit our STORE.
Call 505-345-3737.
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$45.99 Regular Cost
$40.99 Subscriber Cost
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By Naomi Muller, Step 7, author of Nutritious and Delicious Cookbook.
With the hot weather, I love to make cold salads. This is one of my favorites from the Radiant Recovery Cookbook.
CURRIED CHICKEN SALAD
- 3 c. cooked chicken, cubed [or you can use the chicken that comes canned like tuna]
- 3 hard-boiled eggs, chopped
- 1 1/2 c. sugar-free mayonnaise [we use Trader Joe's]
- 1 Tbsp. curry powder or to taste
- 1/2 tsp. garlic powder
- 1/2 c. fresh orange segments
- 1/2 c. sliced scallions
- 1/2 c. sliced black olives
- 1/2 c. chopped cilantro [if you think cilantro tastes like soap, don't use it]
- 1/2 c. chopped pecans or almonds
- 1/4 tsp. salt or to taste
- 1/4 tsp. black pepper or to taste
Combine all ingredients. Serve immediately or refrigerate up to 3 days. Good over mixed greens as main course salad or as sandwich filling. For vegetarian version, substitute baked tofu (cubed) or tempeh for the chicken. Makes 4 servings. `
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Your Last Diet: A Surprise Awaiting
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I recently did a podcast with Katie Jay on weight loss for post bariatric patients. It was a very interesting discussion and I will be able to post it for you once she gets it edited.
Here is a quote from a YLD member:
It has been quite a while since I checked in with you folks. It was not because I wasn't following the plan or had lost interest. Life was unusually stressful from early Dec to the present and I have been putting "stress management" at the top of my agenda. I continue to be absolutely in awe of what Kathleen has discovered. I feel
I have found "my home" - a place where I feel at peace with my body. I weighed myself today for the first time in 2 months - I have lost 10-12 pounds since starting on this journey with you. And, more importantly, I feel so good in my body. I've read with interest what some of you have been saying about the loss of emotional energy around weight loss. This feeling of being OK with where I am now - no, not just OK, but radiant - is incredible.
I did post a instruction sheet for how to get to chat. It is in the files at the YLD email list online. We are working on making it simpler and easier to get in. Please call me at 505-345-3737 if you have any trouble with it.
If you are not a YLD member, come and join us. Click here if you are ready to change your life or just plain ole have fun.
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Another Look at Learned Helplessness
Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.
When you get hurt as a child, you get a big beta-endorphin response to protect you. It literally kept you alive. And then as an adult you have intuitively found ways to recreate *safety* with sugar. Your body *remembers* that beta-endorphin means *safe* so you become very emotionally attached to your *comfort foods.* Sugar sensitive people are more attached to these foods, as we well know. And sugar sensitive people
who have experienced childhood abuse are even more vulnerable.
But here is what is even more intriguing. The body is flooded with beta-endorphin in the time of trauma or inescapable stress. These can be bad things happening like an accident, a death, a horrid boss, abusive situations or even traumatic stimuli like having your utilities turned off or your credit taken away.
If you experienced the protection of the beta-endorphin flooding when you were little, these later adult experiences will recreate that powerful feeling of safety – even though on the outside it rationally seems as if these things are bad. You are drawn to them for the biochemical solace that comes with the release of beta endorphin.
Learned Helplessness
So even the things that seem like they are really *bad* are actually hooking into a very old biochemical pattern of beta-endorphin protection. And if bad things happen enough, you will feel (just as it did when you were little) like there is no way out. You will feel overwhelmed, inadequate and without options – this is learned helplessness.
The most incredible thing is that these feelings are biochemical. They are beta-endorphin mediated. When you use sugars, you are comforted for a little. Life seems more possible, options seems bigger. But you can’t find your way out because the optimism and hopefulness only lasts for a little bit – while the sugar induced beta-endorphin lasts. Or goes away and when you are in beta-endorphin withdrawal, the
helplessness gets worse.
A Way Out
You stay in a downward spiral of hopelessness. The good news is that the Radiant Recovery#&174 plan can help you to get out of the destruction of learned helplessness. But in dealing with the bigger story, you have to make some adjustments. If you really want to be in the world in a new way, you will need to be very diligent about creating experiences to evoke the slow, healing beta-endorphin rather than the
quick spikes that come from sugar.
When you start getting better with the food, you reduce the priming from sugar. This is a good start. But unless you *add in* emotional experiences to recreate beta-endorphin (like EXERCISE, prayer, meditation, dancing, puppies, kittens, good sex (relational intimacy), good food, etc.), your body will be seeking, seeking something to re-activate the beta-endorphin *safety* which you connect to being okay.
You will drift back to old patterns which mirror the trauma. So you will pick a fight with a cop ;-), your husband, partner or mother. You will *forget* to pay your bills on time, you will double book appointments, or not pay your taxes. This is NOT a function of being screwed up so much as an unconscious attempt to find solace and safety. Unless you reform the patterns, learned helplessness will follow you
tenaciously. And you reform the brain patterns by changing the food.
Take care of the food and the rest will take care of itself
"If you are going to be with a person in a dark hole, take a ladder and a lantern." the steps are the ladder and our humor and perspective is the lantern.
You are not alone. Grace is unfolding.
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