Newsletter

December 16, 2013

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I have been making sure to keep the bird feeder full. MANY birds this time of year, especially since it is cold. There is one little one with a white head. I don't know what it is. I suspect Allison will stop by and tell me since she is the bird queen. Of course, I do know the names of all the pigeons who stop buy to grab all the seed that falls to the ground.

Candle

We have started our Holy Night Class so my heart is turning to the sacredness of this time. In chat someone asked if it was *religious* and we had a nice reflection about this. No, it is not religious, it is about honoring the light rising in the darkness. And about the balance...how the darkness allows us to see the light from very far away. Mostly the whole thing is about quieting down. I will say more in this week's article.

Dogs are good for those who follow that, LOL. I placed 3 doggies this week. Bob Barker, Gigi and Kelly are safe with new families. The 4 left make a rowdy pack. They know how to break the ice on the top of the water bucket. It makes me laugh. The sturdy boys were just perplexed and Miss old, fat bitch (that is a official term for a female dogs - please don't be offended) struts in up to it, picks up her paw and BOOM! Skilled! Hole in ice, water pours up. Boys come and drink AFTER she is done. They do crack me up. You can meet them at grrnm.com. And for those of you who do not like dogs or see the point of them and get irked by my talking about them, you can just skip over that part. (smile)

This class will begin Wednesday, December 18, 2013. Please click on the name of the class and it will take you to the registration page:

Using Radiant Resources (1 week) - is a free orientation for those of you who are brand new and would like to find your way around town. Come sit on the top of our double-decker bus for a guided tour. And even if you are not brand new, this is a really fun class to reconnect with all the treats of the community. Even though you might be distracted this week, it is a great class.

The class schedule is online. Click here to see what is planned.

A number of you have asked me how the classes work. Check the class list page for more information on this. And please go read the questions and answers before you write to me. If you have trouble getting through the process, write the tech forum.

Be sure to visit our Radiant Recovery website and Community Forum regularly.

Warmly,
Kathleen

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**Quote From Kathleen **

Its clues may not be in words, but your body talks in a consistent and predictable way. You just have to learn its language.

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**Testimonial of the Week **

* Having good ice cleats underfoot for walking the dogs with ease and confidence.

I made the hour mark again today, much to my surprise. It still feels very new, and a little awkward...so much thinking so early in the morning! OTOH, I love getting my day off to a good start...it gives me a feeling of accomplishment, and a steadiness that I love. And I'm starting to look forward to breakfast now. That would have been unimaginable to me earlier this year.

Lindsay

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**Radiant Life **

I've been ruminating on this newsletter all week. Conversations chat was interesting for me as well. I think it is because I used to focus so much of my unbalanced biochemistry onto weight. It all made me happy and grateful for the freedom of choice I have, as opposed to the trapped, narrow feelings I had for many years.

I've also thought about how I used to see failure. I put on weight at the beginning of my steps. It all settled in my Step 3, and so I really identified with this part of the newsletter:

So, the question is, do you have to gain weight? The answer, of course, is no... you simply get your motivation in gear and move along in the process. Step three has a huge impact on the sugar and white stuff.

I would have said at one time that my weight gain was a failure. But I don't regret an ounce, isn't that funny? It did seem to teach me a lot.

Perhaps the best lesson is that the sky didn't fall in because I had gained a bit. I learned to put things into perspective in a very healing way.

Looking back I see in that weight gain a reflection of some of the reasons I gained weight in the past.

I sometimes think my body said - ok, you're listening, let's run through and demonstrate some living-through-it things for you to experience, LOL

all or nothing/on the diet or well and truly off it
thinking to eat now because I might as well ( feast now, in case of famine later)
eating more at lunch to try and "last through"
too much brown/ fat/protein here and there
then restricting because I had eaten too much
erratic mealtimes leaving my body confused.
oh and I also did 'wine isn't a sugar' and doesn't count at weekends How did I work that out? LOL

With healing, too, I can look at everything without any emotional charge or judgment, and so it has all been useful. No failure here, learning experiences.

That all bodes well for my future. I've got so much knowledge. I understand 'me' better. Add to that the things I learn in YLD about insulin resistance, stress and meditation, how to build new patterns with mind maps, its all good.

I think it's worth saying my favourite quote again:

you simply get your motivation in gear and move along in the process

Great, isn't it? Do the food. Breakfast. Motivation. I got lots of help here in the forum

and then it was good.

Mosaic

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**Radiant Ambassadors **

Imagine the scene - there I was, driving home with the window down and feeling the warm breeze against my face, when what should I hear on the radio but “Those who eat chocolate are more depressed.” Oh my goodness, people were talking about chocolate and depression in the same sentence - I had to find out more!

When I arrived home, I found that details of a study produced in America were already up on the BBC website. My favourite phrase from the article was "Chocolate could even be a direct cause of depression, the researchers added." You can read the whole article here:

I tweeted the article and sent a message to my local radio station (because I first heard it from them). I also posted the article link on Facebook.

It even made the LA Times:

I am so glad that the researchers are finally getting 'round to making and studying these connections. It won’t be long before everyone will be talking about Radiant Recovery!

Selena
selenas@blueyonder.co.uk

Come join us if you are excited about spreading the news.

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**How I Found Radiant Recovery **

Hello everyone!

My name is Cindy and I live in Charleston - SC. I am currently reading Potatoes Not Prozac and really identified with all the aspects of the book: feeling addicted to sugar, run down, no energy, lacking in self esteem, plus struggling to have the will power to lose weight and keep it off. I am really looking forward to this program and gaining the skills and knowledge to help live a fulfilling life.

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** Radiant Recovery^® Store **

David manages the Radiant Recovery^® Store. He is also Kathleen's oldest son.

I have had some newly pregnant women ask me about which fish oil to get so I thought it would be good to say a little about the different oils we carry.

	ProEPA - Nordic Naturals ProEPA, one of the industry's highest concentrations of EPA from fish,is enhanced with natural lemon oil in both the soft gel capsule and oil for great lemon taste. ProEPA is molecularly distilled for purity and concentration, and has added rosemary extract for superior freshness. This high concentrate formula provides excellent nutritional support for the body to manufacture vital series 3 prostaglandins, and is 'repeat' and 'odor free.
	ProDHA - DHA (Docosahexaenoic Acid) is a polyunsaturated fatty acid, and is an essential building block of brain and nerve tissue. DHA can not be synthesized by the body, and therefore must be obtained by a diet high in deep-sea cold water fish. DHA, which constitutes approximately 40% of the brain, supports brain development during the last trimester of pregnancy when the unborn child's demand for neurological growth increases greatly. If added to the mother's diet, it can help prevent the depletion of the mother's store of DHA, and support the developing baby's essential fatty acid needs. Currently, the proposed Adequate Intake of DHA for pregnant and lactating women is 300 mg. per day. (ISSFAL)
	Children's DHA -Nordic Naturals Children's DHA is a small, chewable cod liver oil supplement flavored with strawberry essence. Children's DHA is a delicious way for children to supplement their diet with the essential brain nutrient, DHA. Molecularly distilled for purity, Children's DHA contains only naturally existing. For children three years and older.
	ProEFA Junior - Everyone needs Omega fatty acids, especially young, developing minds! Nordic Naturals ProEFA Junior provides a full spectrum of Omega fatty acids necessary for brain and eye development and maintenance, as well as mood, focus, learning ability, and overall well-being. Taste-tested by kids and teens, these lemon-flavored chewable capsules are perfect for ages five through teens. This one is great for kids who have a hard time paying attention.
	And if you are taking fish oil, Kathleen recommends also taking Pycnogenol to strengthen capillaries and protect you from bruising.

Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better.

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**Radiant Kitchen **

Philly Cheesesteak Sandwiches

I wanted a chicken sandwich of some sort one night. Heidi sent me this recipe and it got 4 thumbs up in our house! Here is the recipe from Heidi with my notes.

This recipe is based on an Emeril Recipe for Philly Cheesesteak Sandwiches. I wanted something with chicken though, so I altered it to make it what I wanted.

I do this without a recipe these days, so amounts are approximate. Adjust to your own personal taste!

Ingredients:

Olive oil
2 large white onions, thinly sliced
1 or 2 green peppers, depending on your love of peppers, thinly sliced (I did green, red, and yellow)
2 t. minced garlic (I used jar minced garlic because I’m lazy that way)
1 t. salt
1/2 t. pepper (I didn’t measure the salt and pepper, I just added)
4 chicken breasts, very thinly sliced (Freeze them a bit and they will slice beautifully)
Provolone cheese slices
Bread or rice for serving (Most of the family did whole wheat hot dog buns. I did DeLand oat bread and then the next day over brown rice. Both were great!)
Other condiments like mayo or ketchup to dress it up your way (We skipped this. It was yummy as is)

Directions:

Preheat the oven to 200 degrees F.
Heat a cast-iron skillet or griddle (I just use a regular saute pan) over medium-high heat. When hot add the oil, onions and bell peppers, and cook, stirring, until caramelized. Add the garlic, salt, and pepper, and cook, stirring, for 30 seconds. Push off to 1 side of the griddle. (I take it out of the pan and set it on a plate to the side while I cook the chicken because my pan isn't that big.)
Add the meat to the hot pan and cook, stirring and breaking up the chicken into smaller strands. Mix in the sauteed vegetables. Put the mixture on bread or rice, top with cheese slices and melt in the oven until bread is toasty and cheese is bubbly.
Dress with condiments to make it the way you like it and serve!
This is also great with mushrooms.

For more great program-friendly recipes, check out our cookbook in the store and visit our online Radiant Recipes site.

Radiant Recovery
Cookbook

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**Radiant YLD **

In the back of your mind you might be thinking you will join YLD at the first of the year. (grin)

Why not do it now, so you can start having some perspective on the way to integrate weight loss into your food program. There will be lots going on in 2014 so come and take a look at the vast array of classes and support you get with your program. We start with you on day one and stay right with you until you are totally skilled and rocking with your weight loss.

Steph x

If you would like to join, come find us here

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**Radiant Conversations **

We have a new portal for the Conversations program. Come check it out here.

Monday, we will have a fun conversation about *ground rules* for chat. It will be an orientation for the new folks, and you all get to learn how to do the meow and harp functions. Chat is still the high point of my week. Great time to come join us.

If you would like to join us, you can do that below.

Join YLD Weight Loss Now: click here - $99

Join Conversations 2011 Now: click here - $99

Join Both YLD and Conversations Now: click here - $149

Current YLD members wish to Upgrade to Both, click here - $49

If you are not a member, come and join us if you want to be a part of the latest and greatest or just have some plain ol' fun!

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**Our Online Groups **

On the Radiant Step 5 list we talk about the importance of browns, about the different grains available - how to choose, how to cook, how to serve. We explore why for some of us wheat may not be the best alternative or not a good one. Step 5 can be exciting and you can learn how to introduce new things to resistant family members. We also call it the 'coming out' step since it's at this step that when we 'eat out' we may seem different to those not familiar with our program.

Or come to the group page to find the one that will best support your program: http://www.radiantrecovery.com/list_serves.htm

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**Holy Night Class **

Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.

This week's article will be a funny combination. Last week in chat, we were having a sweet discussion of what is the Holy Night class anyway...I thought you would like to read it.

And then we got into a discussion of dealing with challenging situations. I thought it would be fun for you to read it this week BEFORE you go home for the holidays, LOL. And you can also see how *new* classes get born.

I think this is the best of what community is about...this dynamic dialogue that creates something more than any one of us might know. Hope you enjoy it.

Radiant Recovery US Chat Transcript Radiant Your Last Diet US Chat
Wednesday, December 11, 2013

radiantkd:	Hi everyone
marian:	hi
Nancy:	Hello
Natalie:	howdy
Linda B (in OK):	Hello!
Roseann:	hello :)
Alison G:	Hi
Angella:	hello
Marcy:	Hi
WendyinPhilly:	Hi
Gloria:	Hello
Regina:	hi
Kath:	G'day
Chloe :	Evening
gretel:	hi
radiantkd:	is everyone signed up for the Holy Night Class
WendyinPhilly:	Yes
Terri W:	Yes
Nancy:	no....
marian:	yes
Roseann:	I am :)
Natalie:	no
Marcy:	no
Elaine in CO:	yes :)
Linda B (in OK):	yes
Chloe :	No
Regina:	yes
Gloria:	Yes
Angella:	yes
Alison G:	yes
radiantkd:	Ok, I am encouraging you to come LOL
radiantkd:	it is a wonderful tradition
radiantkd:	and worth the time to connect
Gloria:	Yes it is indeed
radiantkd:	do you have any questions about it?
Nancy:	yes. What is it all about?
radiantkd:	it is a process of learning to focus on the deeper meaning of this time of year
radiantkd:	light emerging in the darkness
Natalie:	is it religious?
Nancy:	good question, natalie!
Kath:	It is spiritual, but not religious
radiantkd:	I don't think so although I do reference christmas along with Chaunnukah (but wont this year since it is over) and soyal which is the Hopi festival of midwinter
radiantkd:	I am not sure what you mean by religious - denominational?
Natalie:	Will anyone be offended by an atheist?
Kath:	I am a Christian, but I think it has been comfortable and helpful for people of other faiths and none
radiantkd:	Natalie, I hardly think so
Natalie:	ok cool
Kath:	I certainly wouldn't be offended Natalie! I would be glad of anyone who wants to be there
radiantkd:	it really is about your own experience
radiantkd:	it actually is not real interactive anyway LOL
Nancy:	i'll try it
Natalie:	Okay, I just try to be sensitive. :)
radiantkd:	appreciate that
Natalie:	I'll sign up
radiantkd:	the nice thing is that it creates a connection
radiantkd:	with the idea of healing
Natalie:	Done! I signed up. :)
radiantkd:	I think the key thing for me is a deeper issue....how we support one another in healing
radiantkd:	and learning to step away from old patterns
Natalie:	that sounds really good
Nancy:	what I found interesting is when you said this about the class, that it is about light emerging in the darkness.
radiantkd:	what do you mean, Nancy?
Nancy:	Just a personal thing. I am new to this approach and being that I have been down quite a few paths in recovery I feel I am in darkness (currently) so I would love to learn more about the "light" and am interested in stepping away from old patterns.
radiantkd:	well, I happened to believe that the universe has an energy
radiantkd:	that is helpful in healing
WendyinPhilly:	I use to hate the darkness...until I healed old wounds and this class helped me to find an appreciation for the darkness.
Natalie:	Interesting, Wendy.
Kath:	I like that Wendy, I like to be reminded that it is a time of gentle darkness and the light is a blessing.
Nancy:	I like that, too, Wendy. Thanks.
Kath:	The time around Christmas can be very glarey here (It is summer here in Australia)
gretel:	And I have found it a wonderful time to reflect on opening up to new possibilities and understandings, new birth
WendyinPhilly:	I like that Gretel!
radiantkd:	for me it simplifies the whole christmas madness
Regina:	I like that- every year I get upset about the
Gloria:	it helps me connect with a feeling of peace
radiantkd:	and does what I would call a redirect
Regina:	'plastic' part of Christmas
radiantkd:	I like finishing up with Soyal
Kath:	either hemisphere, this holy time comes in the middle of what can be uncomfortable weather conditions and tricky family times. A time to reflect on the blessings and healing, the new possibilities, and the gift that all is, makes for joy!
Kath:	yes Regina, I like reconnecting with what is real, rather than plastic or fake
radiantkd:	I have no way for my brain to make sense of the idea of the southern hemisphere being opposite
radiantkd:	but that is totally of the topic LOL
WendyinPhilly:	Kath I love the way to view things.
Kath:	LOL Kathleen
radiantkd:	ok, so for tonight, lets turn our energy to flourishing at this time of year
Kath:	sorry didn't mean to redirect off topic
radiantkd:	many people lose their way during December
radiantkd:	even people who are steady on their food
radiantkd:	there are so many changes
Marcy:	And so much to do
radiantkd:	parties, expectations of eating sweets and goodness, family issues
Regina:	This is a big concern of mine.
radiantkd:	LOL gosh I didn't even think of that since I don't do a lot right now
radiantkd:	but let's see what concerns you guys have
Kath:	so many expectations we (I still) place on ourselves, even if others would be fine with us doing things differently
WendyinPhilly:	limited time to cook my food, quick and easy are very appealing
Kath:	I am practicing being open to doing less, being still. I am appreciating advent even more than usual this year.
Terri_W:	cold and dark seem to still have a big impact on me
Marcy:	Getting ready for company and house guests
Linda B (in OK):	The food has not been a problem, but other pods popping up.
Alison G:	I host our big family gathering on Christmas Eve. Lots to do to get everything ready
Nancy:	a concern of mine is trying to maintain the holiday spirit among the pressures of the holiday season to begin with (cook, shop, smile, lol) but also how to be grateful for family when there is dysfunction around you. How do I keep it all in perspective
Natalie:	I don't like people to see how much weight I've gained since they last saw me.
Nancy:	how does one not get swept off in that current?
Chloe :	I am blessed quiet for us, I have scaled back on activities cooking and present giving
Regina:	More time at home-harder to stay on track w/ my food. Lots of sugar around. I have started asking people not to send sugar.
Kath:	keeping a safe place practice, and time alone even for 15 min each morning makes a huge difference for me Nancy
Chloe :	Simple
radiantkd:	ok, lots of issues LOL
Alison G:	opposite of quiet, LOL. House full of people and I am an introvert
Nancy:	Thank you, Kath.
radiantkd:	let's extrapolate the issues
radiantkd:	time pressure
radiantkd:	performance pressure
radiantkd:	dysfunctional families
radiantkd:	being fat
radiantkd:	not getting sucked in
radiantkd:	taking care of food
Chloe :	I enjoy christmas now with letting all that go
radiantkd:	does that pretty much cover them?
Natalie:	yep. i could select lots of those!
Alison G:	yes
Regina:	yes
radiantkd:	I think time and family are about performance yes?
Gloria:	:-) yes
Alison G:	yes
Nancy:	yes
Marcy:	yes
Kath:	dysfunctional family is also about not getting sucked into old patterns
radiantkd:	here is a really outrageous idea....rooftop
radiantkd:	one can step aside
radiantkd:	ask for help
radiantkd:	hire help
radiantkd:	change the expectations
radiantkd:	like potluck instead of your doing all the cooking LOL
Nancy:	that's an idea!
radiantkd:	now, about getting hooked
radiantkd:	I find humor is very helpful
radiantkd:	detachment
radiantkd:	sharing with neutral people who can help you see how silly the dysfuction is
radiantkd:	having your own car, so you can leave
Regina:	LOL
radiantkd:	staying in a motel rather than at the house
radiantkd:	having them stay in a motel LOL
Natalie:	that is HUGE... the motel.
Natalie:	saves relationships!
radiantkd:	making sure peole have food before booze LOL
radiantkd:	going to a movie while they all drink
gretel:	LOL
radiantkd:	going to a movie and then staying in a motel
Nancy:	hmmm, i like that one too!
gretel:	not serving alcohol LOL
Marcy:	:)
radiantkd:	well, sometimes that could be a disaster
radiantkd:	then they get really snarky LOL
Alison G:	lol
radiantkd:	that is what I mean about humor
Regina:	All I want for Christmas is a motel room!
gretel:	LOL pick your poison, snarky or drunk
radiantkd:	easy enough
WendyinPhilly:	Limit the amount of alcohol you have in the house. If they want more they have to go get it, LOL
radiantkd:	well, I would say, have people bring their own
gretel:	yes
Natalie:	or, as with the pot luck idea, you could make it BYOB
Nancy:	LOL, gretel
radiantkd:	I don't serve it ever
radiantkd:	I don't buy it
Regina:	Me either
radiantkd:	nor do I buy desserts LOL
gretel:	Our home has been an alcohol free zone, everyone knows it
gretel:	they drink before, or after, but not at our home
radiantkd:	I do make wonderful things that they all love
WendyinPhilly:	My brother brings it in his car and goes outside to nip...he thinks I don't know, LOL
gretel:	LOL
radiantkd:	LOL drunk people are really boring
Regina:	LOL
radiantkd:	that is what I mean about humor
gretel:	I make good food too, have nice music, fun things to do
Natalie:	LOL Wendy
Kath:	Changing our extended family get together from a dinner to Boxing day breakfast radically changed what we ate and a lot of the patterns that had been so dysfunctional
Nancy:	i can definitely put the focus more on my nephews. they make me smile. :)
Nancy:	great idea, Kath. I can see how that would help.
radiantkd:	what about the issue of being fat or fatter
Nancy:	i am just trying to accept it...
Gloria:	keeping that sense of humor about ourselves helps too
WendyinPhilly:	I'm over that one. Don't like me the way I am...don't come...simple for me
Terri_W:	wear clothes that I love so I'm less self conscious
Natalie:	I need a response to passive aggressive comments... i'm so bad at it.
radiantkd:	can you give me an example
Gloria:	Terri, what a nice idea
Natalie:	"Do you think you should be eating that?" "You should try crossfit." Then there's the pregnancy question...
Natalie:	:o
radiantkd:	ok, would you like some language for those
Alison G:	I'm fine until I see unflattering pics after on facebook. Have had discussions with family about that!
Natalie:	anything! :) yes, please.
radiantkd:	do you think you should be eating that? answer would be
radiantkd:	I am sorry, I don't know what you mean
Natalie:	lol
Natalie:	excellent
WendyinPhilly:	nice one!
radiantkd:	You should try crossfit, answer would be
radiantkd:	oh, are you suggesting I am too fat
Natalie:	ha!
WendyinPhilly:	lol
radiantkd:	then you let them squirm
Terri_W:	:)
Roseann:	lol
Natalie:	brilliant!
Marcy:	lol
radiantkd:	next line ...I really am set, thanks for thinking of me
gretel:	I just LOVE that kind of directness LOL
Terri_W:	my family would respond with "well, I'm just worried about you"
Natalie:	good point Terry
radiantkd:	right, answer for that
Natalie:	*Terri
radiantkd:	oh, thank you very much, how sweet of you
Nancy:	honestly... i have family who have outright said to me, "You got fat. Lose weight and don't eat that." Then what?
gretel:	LOL
radiantkd:	answer for that:
radiantkd:	Oh, you noticed, and you laugh.
Natalie:	LOL
Natalie:	this is awesome!
Regina:	LOL
radiantkd:	and you say, I am sorry but I don't think I asked you to decide my life for me
Nancy:	yeah! thank you.
Natalie:	yeah!
radiantkd:	and they say the oh, I am only concerned for the best for you
Nancy:	exactly...
radiantkd:	and you say, oh, thank you very much for the thought, I appreciate it
WendyinPhilly:	I love when you give us language Kathleen!
radiantkd:	ok, and the pregnancy one....LOLOL
Kath:	me too
Nancy:	i will try this if i get this
Natalie:	it's like verbal aikido!
radiantkd:	how old are you
Natalie:	i'm 48! lol
Natalie:	(and never had kids)
radiantkd:	ok, great, then you said, oh I so wish!!!
Natalie:	haha
radiantkd:	and you laugh, and say, Nope, just fat
Natalie:	HA!
Regina:	Kathleen, I'd love to have you at my Christmas dinner!
WendyinPhilly:	lol that's the topper!
radiantkd:	you see how it changes it when you are not defensive
Natalie:	yes, Regina! I agree!
Natalie:	yes, it's brilliant, Kathleen, thank you
radiantkd:	people dont do it when I am there
radiantkd:	LOLOLOL I have an energy field
Regina:	LOL
Roseann:	lol
radiantkd:	I am so laughing. they just all get drunk and pout
Terri_W:	It is really interesting to see people's reactions when I admit that I know I'm fat
radiantkd:	or pass out
Natalie:	lol
Natalie:	I love this chat!
Linda B (in OK):	I agree Terri!
radiantkd:	you can also say, would it make you feel better if I were not fat
radiantkd:	rather that what's it to you, bubba!!!!
gretel:	LOL
radiantkd:	here is the key...bless them, change me
radiantkd:	or *it has to be really hard for you that I am fat....doesn't it embarass you.
Nancy:	LOLOL
WendyinPhilly:	ouch
Kath:	oh I like these, it invites real dialogue and connection
radiantkd:	does it make you feel embarassed to have a fat daughter/sister
Nancy:	I like that one
Regina:	Oh, that's good!
Natalie:	good point, Kath! it makes you consider the connection
Angella:	i like bless them change me
radiantkd:	not always kath, It ususally just shuts them up
Nancy:	put it back on THEM. :D
gretel:	yes Nancy
radiantkd:	yes, it makes them speak their truth and if they are being rude, to own it
gretel:	yah
radiantkd:	or, here is a heavy hitter
WendyinPhilly:	There should be a language class next Kathleen
radiantkd:	I am sorry, were you intending to be that rude, or did it just slip out
Natalie:	HAHAHA
radiantkd:	that would be fun, wouldn't it
Nancy:	screams LOL!
Natalie:	oh my i just snorted my glass of water on that one!
WendyinPhilly:	a hoot!
Regina:	Writing that one down
radiantkd:	in January when everyone is feeling fat
radiantkd:	here is an idea - take a pad and pen with you
radiantkd:	write down those comments
radiantkd:	lets collect them
radiantkd:	would that be fun
Natalie:	yes!
radiantkd:	it will change your energy
Nancy:	yeah
Nancy:	absolutely
WendyinPhilly:	empowerment
Natalie:	i shall capture them on my phone
radiantkd:	ok, and one other thing
Natalie:	I'll say, "Wait, I want to get this one down."
Kath:	even the act of writing them down may call attention and say something to the speaker without us having to have the right words on the pot to reply
gretel:	Yes Natalie!!!!
radiantkd:	get something nice to wear and dont send off that I AM FAT energy
Natalie:	ok
radiantkd:	and find one person you like
Nancy:	how does one not send out the I am fat energy?
radiantkd:	or find one person who is more uncomfortable than you and be kind
radiantkd:	Nancy, ask on the list, we can practice
Regina:	Lovely
Terri_W:	oh, I like that one!
Nancy:	Which list?
gretel:	radiantyourlastdiet
radiantkd:	it is a funny thing...you walk in with the energy of actually I know I am fat
radiantkd:	this is hard to explain
radiantkd:	come to the YLD list and we can work on it, it will be a fun discussion
Nancy:	okay, thank you
radiantkd:	the old timers all know what I mean LOL
radiantkd:	this is what you get for your membership LOL
radiantkd:	this knowing
Nancy:	:)
gretel:	empowerment
radiantkd:	ok one last thing. what do I name the class
WendyinPhilly:	Love Language
radiantkd:	radiant comebacks?
Nancy:	haha, i like that one
Natalie:	Radiant Communication
Nancy:	radiant comebacks
gretel:	radiant retorts
radiantkd:	empowerment through radiant retorts
Natalie:	HA!
Natalie:	Radiant Retorts!
Terri_W:	I prefer more generic radiant language
radiantkd:	I do admit that sometimes I feel like saying would you shut the F&^% up, but I don't
Gloria:	radiant linguistics
Roseann:	lol
gretel:	Radiant Responses
radiantkd:	ok, we can work on naming on the list too
Kath:	I prefer language as a tool rather than a weapon, but it helps to know I can have a pocket full of phrases to bolster my gentle resilient responses
radiantkd:	we have to stop because my stomach is growling
Natalie:	That's why I suggested "communication"
Chloe :	Thank you for the extra time tonight
Natalie:	ok thanks everyone!
Natalie:	great session!
WendyinPhilly:	Wonderful chat tonight, I've learned a new way to speak, thank you. Goodnight
Nancy:	thank you
radiantkd:	night everyone
Terri_W:	thank you
gretel:	night
Linda B (in OK):	Good night!
Regina:	Thank you. Good night
Kath:	me too terri
Gloria:	thank you
Marcy:	good night!
radiantkd:	I will ask Selena to put it up quickly
Roseann:	thank you ... great chat. Good Night Everyone
Alison G:	goodnight. thank you!

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