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October 29, 2012 Hi {!firstname_fix} 
Well, since I know so many of you love following our Rescue antics, I thought I would share a letter I recently got about one of the two little sprites I got and placed. When I was asked to take them, I was told they were so *savage* the people were concerned I might have to euthanize them. And she meant it. I told her to send them in separate crates. They arrived covered in this soft fuzzy orange hair which I assumed was a sign of being close to starvation. And yep, they were savage.I worked with them for three months. Gave them great food, did clicker training, and brushed and kissed them and told them no fighting. And just like here in the community, some miracle happened. Here is the new owner's report… Hi Kathleen! I hope you had a wonderful time in England! Just wanted to give you an update on Mandi (Angie) along with some photos. 
Mandi is a LOVE! She is a bundle of energy from sunrise to bedtime. We named her Mandi after a song titled 'Good Morning' by Mandisa and Toby Mac. The first morning Mandi woke up with us she was on the verge of wagging that tail off her body. Her entire body just shook with excitement in her crate and she could barely contain her joy. Wish I had that morning enthusiasm! Anyhow, some of the lyrics to the Morning Song fit Mandi and we therefore shortened the name Mandisa to Mandi.Some of the lyrics...... Wave away my yesterday Cause I'm leaving it behind me. Hello sunshine, come what may. I feel something new inside me. I hear the birds singing ..... It's a good morning! Wake up to a brand new day. This morning, I'm stepping, stepping on my way Good morning, You give me strength, You give me just what I need. And I can feel the hope that's rising in me. It's a good morning ...... 
Mandi loves belly rubs, walks, runs, fetching, bone chewing, hide and seek, paper shredding, watch dogging, lap dogging and so much more. She brings our children so much joy and vice versa. What a great fit she is and we feel very blessed to be her forever home. Thank you for our precious gift! Attached are pictures of Mandi. Enjoy! Many Blessings, Kathy & Family PS. Are you okay if we make arrangements with our veterinarian to have Mandi spayed? We will be happy to take care of the payment. I can send you a copy of the paperwork after the surgery if that would be helpful. If this is not what GRRNM desires, no worries. We simply thought it would be nice for our vet to meet Mandi and start her care and relationship building. Plus we know it would financially help GRRNM. (Smile) These classes will begin Wednesday, October 31, 2012. Please click on the name of the class and it will take you to the registration page:
The class schedule is online. Click here to see what is planned. A number of you have asked me how the classes work. Check the class list page for more information on this. And please go read the questions and answers before you write to me. If you have trouble getting through the process, write the tech forum. Be sure to visit our Radiant Recovery website and Community Forum regularly. Warmly, Kathleen **********************************************************************
**Quote From Kathleen ** Nothing is ever lost in your process. Every slip, every derailment is in your service. **********************************************************************
**Testimonial of the Week ** So far in this thread you've talked about food and BE hits (lack of sleep). What was/is your program for gently raising BEs? Reason I ask is, it took me MONTHS of step 7 to realize there are TWO, count em two, parts to healing BE. One is to stop spiking (step 6). The other is to continuously raise BEs a drop at a time until your cup runneth over. Over and over I see people saying "a life hit wobbled my BE." ESPECIALLY after detox. There's even a chapter about this in PnP where it talks about the special time between stopping spiking and really, truly filling one's BE cup. Check out the section on "Protecting Your Program." Yes, life can throw some forces. But we don't have to be wobbled. The more our cup is full of BE, the less those hits affect us. I also see people post-detox, me included, doing things like staying up late, working too hard, flirting with enchiladas (cheese and corn!!!!) or other supposedly legal brown food, and not paying attention to BE raising "drops" added to our cup. Why just last night I went to bed on time, and then my daughter asked for help with a spreadsheet graph before I was asleep, and I was so excited that she asked for help and that I could be a hero, that I got up. And the next morning was draggy. DOH! One time I caught myself at sloppy BE caretaking and decided for fun to write down how many times a day I laughed. It lasted about a day and a half and I kept forgetting! That's how out of practice I was at small BE raisers done to the same level of intention as protein/ browns/greens. I am talking about step 7 journal - mine got more "features" as the program went on and there were more things I wanted data on. Not saying everyone should journal laughing. But it was really funny on many levels. Connie **********************************************************************
**Radiant Ambassadors **  I often go into charity shops - it's always fun to see what's available. Recently, on one of my many jaunts, I came across a copy of Your Body Speaks on a shelf. So I picked it up and placed it at the front of all the books so that more people could see it! I wonder if it's still there and whether it's found a new owner yet? That always makes me smile! Selena selenas@blueyonder.co.uk Come join us if you are excited about spreading the news. **********************************************************************
**How I Found Radiant Recovery ** My name is Tammy and I live in Rochester Hills, Michigan. I have been on the PnP plan for several months and have seen amazing changes in my life! I am somewhere in step 2-3-4... :-) I haven't been able to master the journaling of step 2 but still moved on to step 3 and am loving it! I have suffered from depression for most of my life (I'll be 40 in July) and since getting enough protein and three meals a day I have found full relief from my depression! I am so grateful for Kathleen, her program and her team and I look forward to getting to know you all! Cheers **********************************************************************
** Radiant Recovery® Store ** David manages the Radiant Recovery® Store. He is also Kathleen's oldest son. 
This week, I would like to remind you of two incredible products that can support your program. We carry these incredible digestive enzymes. If you have any kind of digestive stuff going on (constipation, bloating, feeling hungry all the time, or allergies), you might be amazed at how much better you feel by taking the enzymes. The all round one is called Quadrazyme.
The second one we carry is Gammazyme, a specialized enzyme product for people who have ulcers or IBS . Digestive enzymes are great for sugar sensitive people, but one of them, protease can be a problem if your gut is inflamed and open. Gammazyme has no protease so it is safe for you and helps digest your food better. Means YOU get more nutrition.I know that Kathleen spent a long time looking at different enzyme products before she chose these. And she uses them herself. Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better. **********************************************************************
**Radiant Kitchen ** Strawberry Soup
Notes: If you use frozen strawberries, be sure to purchase unsweetened brands. You may wish to slightly thaw berries to make processing easier. This soup can be served as a refreshing appetizer or as a light dessert. The addition of black pepper may seem odd to you, but it is an old culinary trick which greatly enhances the fruitiness of the strawberries. Do give it a try! For more great program-friendly recipes, check out our cookbook in the store and visit our online Radiant Recipes site. **********************************************************************
**Radiant YLD ** We will be returning to our book study this week…love to have you join us. Because there was a time change for the UK and Europe this past week, and we have not changed time yet, we in the US will show up for Eurochat an hour later for us. You guys come at your time. If you would like to join, come find us here **********************************************************************
**Radiant Conversations ** We have a new portal for the Conversations program. Come check it out here. This week's conversation chats will talk about the whole process of giving back…how step 7 leads us into sharing our experience and knowing with those of you who are just starting the process. Will love to have you there. Because there was a time change for the UK and Europe this past week, and we have not changed time yet, we in the US will show up for Eurochat an hour later for us. You guys come at your time. If you would like to join us, you can do that below. Join YLD Weight Loss Now: click here - $99 Join Conversations 2011 Now: click here - $99 Join Both YLD and Conversations Now: click here - $149 Current YLD members wish to Upgrade to Both, click here - $49 Current YLD members who wish to Transfer to Conversations 2011 Only can do so for a $14.99 admin fee: click here If you are not a member, come and join us if you want to be a part of the latest and greatest or just have some plain ol' fun! **********************************************************************
**Our Online Groups ** Radiant Men is a special group for the men in our community. We are just starting a special tutorial on how to journal feelings…Come join us if you like. **********************************************************************
**Sugar-Sensitive Children ** Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.
Many of us have sugar sensitive children or grandchildren. No surprise. If we are sugar sensitive ourselves, chances are, they are. So we'll have these bright, creative, sensitive, charming little ones who are all over the place, moody, demanding, incessant, energetic and bouncing from being totally unable to pay attention to being locked on one idea for hours.What Are We To Do'If we think we struggle with a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde personality, our children are 1000 times worse. And now that our own lives have a little sanity, our out of control children may seem even more striking in their volatility. What are we to do'Do we try to take them off of sugar and create a 'clean' house in a night' Now you know and I know that you want to create alternatives. But we want to make these changes in a realistic and effective way. We want to do something that will actually work. Cold turkey is not it. Let's look at how to start. First of all you need to be tender and firm with these little sugar sensitive dynamos. Our sugar sensitive children are both darling and obnoxious. They are fully aware of their volatile personalities. Way better than you might guess. And you can bet they have internalized the societal (perhaps even your) message that their 'style' is sometimes 'bad.' Sometimes They Are Truly ObnoxiousYou need to let them know it's not a personality defect - they just got Mom's body. We need to do things to start them feeling better. Talk about sugar sensitivity and that this behavior is NOT because they are bad. It is real and sometimes they, like you, are truly obnoxious. But this is a function of biochemistry. It does not mean that they or you are bad people. It only means that when your biochemistry is off, your behavior will be off.Start with an explanation of carbohydrate sensitivity. You can use words like volatile blood sugar. They will learn the meaning. Explain that their body uses food as fuel. If it's not the right kind of fuel, their bodies won't function properly. Draw a picture of what happens with fuel in the body. Make a little graph for them. When they wake up, they don't have any fuel. They eat and get fuel. As they use it up, the curve starts going down. When it starts going down, they get into trouble. Talk about what kind of behavior happens when their blood sugar is low. Cranky, crabby, whiny stuff. They Can Discover The RelationshipThen have them write how they think they might feel at the different parts of that picture. This way they can discover the relationship of what they are eating to what they feel and do.Now you may think your kids aren't old enough to get this concept. You may be surprised at how insightful they are, even when they are very young. I have taught kids who are three and four this idea. I have had six years olds keep a food journal with pictures and chart their feelings with a graph. One six year old came back to me and said, 'Yah, I figured out I get in trouble when the line goes way down.' He was six! Children love food journals. If they can't write let them draw pictures or use stickers. Help them create their own feelings list. Make a game of identifying feelings. Encourage them to use code in their journals. Show them your own journal. Be outrageous and let them comment on what you were feeling on a given day. Remember that kids already know the effect of food on behavior. They live with you! Staying SteadyYour children need to learn how to keep the line very steady so that they stay out of trouble. Teach them about:Regular and consistent meals. Breakfast is essential. Not skipping lunch. Making sure dinner is on time. Basic stuff we may forget because we are sugar sensitive. This is true even with toddlers who may not tell you they are hungry. Don't let mealtime get erratic or late. Different kinds of protein foods. Cut out pictures from magazines to show protein foods. Let them help with the grocery shopping. Let them chose proteins that they like. Explain that they need to have one of those foods in their lunch. They can still have the Ding Dongs, but now include protein. SerotoninTeach them about serotonin. Teach the scientific words. Kids love knowing this stuff. Tell them that serotonin is the brakes of the brain. And when you are sugar sensitive, your brakes don't work as well. You have a hard time saying 'no' to things or if you fly off the handle or you can't pay attention [parents with ADD children, take heed].
Teach them that you and they together are going to get a brake job. This will help with saying no or paying attention. It will help with not getting in trouble. Let them help to identify how the brakes might help them. Remember that chewing releases serotonin. Repetitive motion release serotonin. Sweeping your room will help you say no. This is true; I am not making it up. Going SlowlyIntroduce brown things slowly. Teach them about whole grains. Let them shop with you and go on a treasure hunt to find brown things. Even very little children can do this. Rather than reinforcing what they 'can't' have, encourage the new things they can have. If they refuse to change from Wonderbread to whole grain bread, take a small step with brown Wonderbread. Help them to guide you. Go slow enough that no one gets weird.Start talking about sugars way before you even think about reducing them. Get out the 'Sugar, Sugar Everywhere' list from the book. Make a game to see who can find the most different kinds of sugars in the foods you eat. Have them go on a treasure hunt at the grocery store. Teach them to read labels. Teach them to see how manufacturers sneak in the sugars. Put together a scrapbook of labels with funny sugar names. Introduce the idea of eating less sweet food. Find foods with less than 10 grams of sugars in them. Ask your kids if they would like to try a mostly 'sugar free' life. Work with them in the process. Don't bombard them with info. Play with it with them -- let them own as much as possible. Let them guide you in the game. No SneakingExplain things to them - be up front about it, don't try to sneak it in without discussing it with them. Be firm about the change after you agree to try it out. Remember that addicts do not normally choose to give up their drugs until things are bad. Simply develop a detached attitude. 'I know you're not going to like this, but let's see how we can manage.'If you are ambivalent with your own program, I guarantee you, kids will know. They will hone in on the most vulnerable place, time and food you have, 'Oh, please, Mom, just once won't hurt!' Remember sugar is NOT love. Love is love. Time, attention, caring is love. Sugar is NOT love. Create Change TogetherIf you have more than one child and some of them are not sugar sensitive, do not single out the sugar sensitive one for the change. Have the whole family change together. The most difficult of all worlds will be if your partner or spouse either thinks the whole thing is crazy or isn't about to give up his/her sweet foods. Then you will need to decide what gift you will give your children.It is possible to create a sugar sensitive program without spousal cooperation. You simply need to say something like 'Daddy isn't ready to give up his sweets yet.' But you can say you aren't going to enable the process. You won't be baking them; you won't be serving them. Now, you may think I am being harsh. But I am speaking from a profound conviction that sweet foods screw up a sugar sensitive biochemistry. The biggest gift we can give our children is to change their diets. It alters self esteem, it alters the capacity for intimacy, and it alters the ability to pay attention and focus. This is not some silly little idea here. It is life changing. And if we KNOW that in our cells, and we have experienced what it does for us, why would we not want to give it to the people we love most? Thanks for reading! If you know someone who could benefit from this, feel free to forward it to them. Not a subscriber yet? Like what you have read? Sign up to get future issues delivered straight to you: http://www.radiantrecovery.com Until next time!
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Gretel, our webmaster, puts it all together. David runs the Radiant Recovery® Store. Selena provides the weekly Ambassadors column. ©2012 Kathleen DesMaisons. All rights reserved. You are free to use or transmit this article to your ezine or website as long as you leave the content unaltered, use this attribution: "By Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D. of Radiant Recovery®", and notify kathleen@radiantrecovery.com of the location. Please visit the Radiant Recovery® website at http://www.radiantrecovery.com for additional resources on sugar sensitivity and healing addiction. You are getting the weekly newsletter from Radiant Recovery® in response to your signup. A copy of this newsletter may also be found posted on the web at http://www. radiantrecovery.com/weeklynewsletter |
