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March 5, 2012 Hi {!firstname_fix} Well, I have pretty much recuperated from my sprained ankle. What a learning experience that was. I think it will take another couple of weeks to integrate everything from it. Puppies have pretty much gone to their new homes. Everyone seems happy about it. I will reorganize puppy space into space for painting. Now it is simply a matter of getting settled and breathing into spring. This class will begin Wednesday, March 7, 2012. Please click on the name of the class and it will take you to the registration page:
This class will begin Wednesday, March 14, 2012. Please click on the name of the class and it will take you to the registration page:
The class schedule is online. Click here to see what is planned. A number of you have asked me how the classes work. Check the class list page for more information on this. And please go read the questions and answers before you write to me. If you have trouble getting through the process, write the tech forum. Be sure to visit our Radiant Recovery website and Community Forum regularly. Warmly, Kathleen **********************************************************************
** Quote From Kathleen ** Remember that sugar-sensitive people tend to be people of extremes. You may feel either totally awash in feelings or totally disconnected. **********************************************************************
** Testimonial of the Week ** Helllooooooooo Fiona!!! Oh yes, it certainly is wonderfully wonderful. :)) My reality is without it I don't quite know where I'd be!!! And honestly it feels so warm, fuzzy and comfortable being around the community. I'm just so grateful to be able to come here and chat with you lovely peeps. I've had a lovely weekend. DS2 has been in a fantastic mood. Hmmmmm, I wonder if that's got anything to do with me having breakfast....haha!! Steph **********************************************************************
** Radiant Ambassadors ** 
Sandra's had a really busy week on the Ambassadors list. She shared several opportunities with us that she had had to share Radiant Recovery with other people. Here is what she wrote:Yesterday I was at Whole Foods and got into discussion with a woman about how they have the best wild rice from Minnesota (not the yucky black stuff they sell). We were going on and on about the light nutty taste and what a great food it was, etc. Anyway, I tossed out radiantrecovery.com was the place that I got my wild rice from and the lady was like, "What was that name again?" and got out a pen and paper and wrote it down! woohoo. A few weeks a go, a 98-year lady that I work with was feeling nauseous and yucky and not herself til later in afternoon. I wondered if it might be a blood sugar. issue and asked her what she had for breakfast. She had either oatmeal or toast. I asked if she could try having 2 eggs AND oatmeal right when she got up in morning instead of waiting til more normal breakfast time. (As she would wake up very early). She did this and was VERY happy to report that she no longer had that nauseous feeling in the morning. And she's been having breakfast ever since! She also reported that she gets hungry not earlier and asked if it was all right to have a snack before lunch. Of course I said, "Yes!! please do!" Finally, a man that takes my swimming classes felt dizzy one morning after taking the class. He's very SS and I asked him about breakfast. He wasn't having any!!! So I suggested having some protein and carb before coming to class. I checked in later with him and it really helped. He's only doing breakfast on days he comes to pool but that's a start! Oh and last week the VP of a cardiovascular machine called the NuStep came to where I work to present us as the winner of the NuStep pinnacle award for outstanding wellness programming. He visited the fitness center where i work and was interested in learning some posture exercises so I worked with him for about an hour the next day in a personal training session. His headquarters are in Michigan where they make all the parts and do all manufacturing of NuStep in Michigan where I am from. Anyway, he said they were doing a boot camp and biggest loser sort of thing with the employees some of whom he said were 400 pounds, etc. In back of my head I am thinking RR, RR, RR. At the end of our session he asked for my card and on back of it I wrote radiantreovery.com for nutrition stuff in addition to a resource for good posture exercises. Who knows what will happen, but it's out there! Sandra Selena selenas@blueyonder.co.uk Come join us if you are excited about spreading the news. **********************************************************************
** How I Found Radiant Recovery ** I am in Washington, DC, USA. I stumbled on YLD while surfing Amazon about a year ago, it spoke to me as did Kathleen's other books. I am on step 3 and hope to find a way finally to live a life without wanting to catch up to it. I always try to lose 10 lbs., then 5, then 20, etc., then get back to exercising. I want to know more about specific classes and forums. Once I feel more or less steady I'd love to come to Ranch. Agate **********************************************************************
** Radiant Recovery® Store ** David manages the Radiant Recovery® Store. He is also Kathleen's oldest son.
Kathleen was first introduced to our Joint Response a number of years ago at the national Golden Retriever Dog show. One of the vendors had Joint Response and was showing a video about it. It knocked her socks off. At that point in time, I had recently moved to Albuquerque. My 8-year-old rottie, Pippin, had severe arthritis. We gave him Joint Response and in 3 weeks he was acting like a puppy. So we started carry the dog stuff in the store. We kept getting great reports. I asked the company if they were going to carry a human product. They said yes. So now we carry that. And they recently added a cream. Click on the products above to get more information on each. As most of you know, Kathleen likes to learn about the things we carry. She started doing a fair amount of research about cetyl. Here is a pretty balanced discussion. http://www.glucosamine-arthritis.org/arthritis/cetyl-myristoleate-arthritis.html Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better. **********************************************************************
** Radiant Kitchen ** I have thought about what foods to add to my collection of what I already keep in the car. I think I will put a box in the car with some of the following foods, but I will still keep my pretty small bag with nuts and crackers in it which I often take to restaurants. Who else has ideas of "emergency foods" to keep in the car? Do you think all of these foods will do okay with the heat in the trunk of the car? Proteins:
For more great program-friendly recipes, check out our cookbook in the store and visit our online Radiant Recipes site. **********************************************************************
** Radiant YLD ** I keep reading posts that say, *OMG, I HAVE to lose weight NOW!!!!!!* *I have to go off of sugar now!!!!!!!* The very, very best option for you if you feel this way is to join YLD. I will be doing a weight loss readiness class soon. And while you are getting ready for that, we can guide you in what to do. You do not have to be on step 6 or 7 to join YLD. You can be on step one or zero and we will help you get ready. If you would like to join, come find us here **********************************************************************
** Radiant Conversations ** We have a new portal for the Conversations program. Come check it out here. Well, I think you may have connected to the fact that we are discussing the topics that are posted in the article for the week. So this week we are going to talk about the whole concept of addiction to misery. I love how vital and engaged these conversations are. If you would like to join us, you can do that below. Join YLD Weight Loss Now: click here - $99 Join Conversations 2011 Now: click here - $99 Join Both YLD and Conversations Now: click here - $149 Current YLD members wish to Upgrade to Both, click here - $49 Current YLD members who wish to Transfer to Conversations 2011 Only can do so for a $14.99 admin fee: click here If you are not a member, come and join us if you want to be a part of the latest and greatest or just have some plain ol' fun! **********************************************************************
** Our Online Groups ** The Radiant Transitions list is a place to discuss something that many of us are dealing with, which is helping our aging parents to make a transition from their active, independent lives to something different. It can be experienced in different ways. There may be parents who are proactive and search for and find a retirement community that would be a safe place for them that also offered assisted living and nursing home care as needed. On the other side of the coin, there may be those who have dementia that progresses to the point that it was no longer safe for them to live alone. This list will be for those of you who are dealing with this situation now. We want the list to feel very safe, so you will have to apply to join it. All members of the list will be expected to participate. No lurkers, please. **********************************************************************
**Misery Calls More Than We Realize ** Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.
I have often reflected on why some people stay stuck in being miserable. No matter what life presented them, they would pick out certain variables to show that once again life was against them. This pattern went beyond your basic garden negativity. It was more like “I will continue my attachment to misery no matter what. It doesn’t matter what good comes to me, I know it is not real.” This pattern defied logic to me. Why would perfectly thoughtful, intelligent people want to live this way? My first clue in sorting this out came when I noticed my own physical response. I withdrew energy, disengaged and did not want to hang with misery or the miserable. When I realized that nothing I did or said changed anything, I just backed off. One day, in the shower, I had an incredible thought. My body was responding to les miserables just the way it does around active alcoholics and addicts. If someone commits to change, asks for help, listens and moves, I am there in a flash. But stay stuck, go round and round, whine, stay miserable no matter what, I just don’t want to spend time on the boat with it. The more I have healed my own codependency the less I can do rescuing. As I was rinsing the shampoo, I thought, “what if we can be addicted to misery?” As soon as that thought passed through, I knew it was true. It would explain the tenacious holding on, the energy, the devotion to it. So then I trundled off to do some research on this. My books, google and PubMed all gave clues. Yep, misery evokes beta-endorphin. Misery evokes the same brain chemical activated by alcohol, heroin, morphine and sugar. When we are miserable, our brains release BE so we feel better. It soothes us until it wears off and then we have to go back for more. We become attached to it. We get romantic and intense about all the bad things that have happened to us. We do “woe is me!”. And…significantly, we become tolerant to it, just like with any drug. Then we need bigger misery. More, more. We amp up the feeling of less than, not good enough, poor, not smart enough, not rich enough, not educated enough. And if life does not cooperate by offering enough brutal events, we create them in our minds. We need to feel worse to feel ok. We create catastrophe in our minds, we exaggerate, we munch to create drama and perpetuate the BE feelings. The increasing tolerance creates immunity to the little negatives, so we need more misery. We then take neutral events and shape them into desperate drama. For example. Perhaps you live on little money. You feel bad because you are poor. And you have low BE because you are sugar sensitive. So you overdraft your account, you pay late, you skip your taxes. And your tolerance grows so things get worse and worse. And when you try to change this pattern, you actually go into withdrawal. So you need to find other misery to grow. You stay in a horrible job, an abusive marriage, a bad apartment. You go round and round and misery becomes your way to being in the world. When you first hear this, it may be confusing. You don’t feel you are seeking it; you aren’t looking for a "high”. But think of it another way. BE is a painkiller. When life is hard, your natural tendency is to look for ways to soothe the pain. You unconsciously turn to things that do that, and then you get hooked. You didn’t know. Just like you didn’t know sugar was a drug until you were way in. Les miserables is a hard one to face. You might feel shame at first and think, “oh dear gawd, not more!” But the joy of healing is that now you understand. Now you have a name for what you thought was just circumstance. Now you can make sense and take action. You start to laugh at yourself. You get amazed at the skill your little inside addict has…it can find ANYTHING and EVERYTHING to make you feel ok. It has a good heart, it is trying its best to have you not feel pain. It is just a little misguided and now, in your recovery, you will do something a little different. You will kiss it on its little black nose, and say “ah, nice try, baby, but we aren’t doing that anymore…..” You will see that you do not want a life of les miserables. You are ready for something different. You can go to school, you can find ways to work with little money, you can leave abusive relationships, you can find a life of joy. This is what recovery is about. When you do the food, you do way more than give up sugar. You are HEALING addiction on a cellular level. Healing is real and it is yours for the doing. Thanks for reading! If you know someone who could benefit from this, feel free to forward it to them. Not a subscriber yet? Like what you have read? Sign up to get future issues delivered straight to you: http://www.radiantrecovery.com Until next time!
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Gretel, our webmaster, puts it all together. David runs the Radiant Recovery® Store. Selena provides the weekly Ambassadors column. ©2012 Kathleen DesMaisons. All rights reserved. You are free to use or transmit this article to your ezine or website as long as you leave the content unaltered, use this attribution: "By Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D. of Radiant Recovery®", and notify kathleen@radiantrecovery.com of the location. Please visit the Radiant Recovery® website at http://www.radiantrecovery.com for additional resources on sugar sensitivity and healing addiction. You are getting the weekly newsletter from Radiant Recovery® in response to your signup. A copy of this newsletter may also be found posted on the web at http://www. radiantrecovery.com/weeklynewsletter |
