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February 6, 2012 Hi {!firstname_fix} I can feel whispers of spring here in New Mexico..It was cold and windy today, but that feel is still there. I like it. I spent time cleaning and polishing my car in the warmth of the sunshine. I have also started to have hot cereal in the morning for breakfast. It sure makes me feel steady. Of course I enjoyed the superbowl. Including the ads, LOL. This class will begin Wednesday, February 8, 2012. Please click on the name of the class and it will take you to the registration page:
The class schedule is online. Click here to see what is planned. A number of you have asked me how the classes work. Check the class list page for more information on this. And please go read the questions and answers before you write to me. If you have trouble getting through the process, write the tech forum. Be sure to visit our Radiant Recovery website and Community Forum regularly. Warmly, Kathleen **********************************************************************
** Quote From Kathleen ** Once you have experienced a week of radiance, you will always return to it. Your molecules will remember and want it. **********************************************************************
** Testimonial of the Week ** I had some moments of sadness during the Christmas holiday about how I don't eat like everyone else. I was on my way home from being with my family, and they are big eaters and drinkers - they get a lot of joy from it. I felt like I was very different from them, and that made me feel sad and left out. And then I remembered. I remembered how miserable I was when I drank. How awful my constant bingeing and dieting and bingeing and dieting made me feel. The crushing depression and social anxiety I had lived with since my teenage years. How I always felt like I was on the outside looking in. Then I thought about how this visit I was able to spend the day and night with my family and enjoy every minute of it for the first time ever. How the drama that they sometimes create passed over my head. How I was relaxed and chatty, and uncompromisingly calm about my food. How I didn't want to escape as early as possible the next morning. So I was sad for a little while, but I realised that the brief sense of belonging I'd get from being able to eat 'normally' would come at an enormous cost. Maybe it's easier for me because I have always been a bit different, food-wise. I grew up unable to eat meat or fish, so I've always been a bit weird when it comes to food. :-) Jenny **********************************************************************
** Radiant Ambassadors ** 
Did you know that you can get free Radiant Recovery business cards from the store with your next order? They are so handy to carry around with you and you never know when you might need one! Here are a few ways you can use them -
Selena selenas@blueyonder.co.uk Come join us if you are excited about spreading the news. **********************************************************************
** How I Found Radiant Recovery ** I heard Kathleen on a local radio program. What she said rang true to me, so I bought PNP. I loved it, did all the steps at once the first time and dropped it. The importance of breakfast and protein stuck for the next few years. I picked it back up again when I started running, because I knew I couldn't eat sugar and run at the level I wanted to. I didn't know how else to "manage" it. I also bought SARP and YLD then. I committed and have never looked back. It's changed my world. Kathleen, I'm so grateful every day for your genius and willingness to share it. JoEllen **********************************************************************
** Radiant Recovery® Store ** David manages the Radiant Recovery® Store. He is also Kathleen's oldest son. 
Here is another fan letter. I get them often. Just last week I had a mom call who had heard about Restore from her daughter's friend at soccer practice. She is using it as an after school snack before practice. This one is from Camille. I just wanted to remind everyone, Restore doesn't have vitamins in it (only George's Original shake does). It's definitely the best protein powder I've ever used! I always feel better after a Restore shake. And I'm always amazed at how fast products ship from the RR store! It's great. Enjoy! Camille Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better. **********************************************************************
** Radiant Kitchen ** I'd be happy to share the potato and egg dish again. This is one of those things that we don't really use a recipe for anymore - we just sort of wing it, so that's how I'm going to tell it to you.
Becca For more great program-friendly recipes, check out our cookbook in the store and visit our online Radiant Recipes site. **********************************************************************
** Radiant YLD ** Don't forget we are doing a book study together. I cannot believe how much fun this is making the whole topic of weight loss. Who would have thought that laughter would be so healing for everyone. I love going back for a line by line redo of the book. It helps make everything fit together. If you would like to join, come find us here **********************************************************************
** Radiant Conversations ** We have a new portal for the Conversations program. Come check it out here. Last week's discussion of the C57 mice was wonderful. Thank you all for coming. This week we are going to talk about the miracle of sleeping through the program. This will surprise you of course. Most of us believe that we have to be SERIOUS with this or it doesn't work. (smile) Let's put that belief to rest. If you would like to join us, you can do that below. Join YLD Weight Loss Now: click here - $99 Join Conversations 2011 Now: click here - $99 Join Both YLD and Conversations Now: click here - $149 Current YLD members wish to Upgrade to Both, click here - $49 Current YLD members who wish to Transfer to Conversations 2011 Only can do so for a $14.99 admin fee: click here If you are not a member, come and join us if you want to be a part of the latest and greatest or just have some plain ol' fun! **********************************************************************
** Our Online Groups ** Introduction to Radiant Cooking is a lively group for members of the Radiant Recovery® community to gain confidence in preparing program-friendly meals. You will learn how to use the kitchen, how to cook and have a lot of fun here. **********************************************************************
**The Miracle of the Sleepers ** Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.
Let your program settle in some. Now, think about where you are in the process. Have you been rigorous, detailed and persistent? Have you dallied, played or poked with the steps? Are you weighing yourself all the time? Are you being attentive to how you feel? Have you kept a journal? As you go through this process, notice how you criticize or judge yourself. Do you ascribe "good" to rigor and "bad" to dabbling? Listen to your inner judge carefully and discover if she or he is an ally or a saboteur. Work with the inner voices. They are crucial to your long-term success. This process may not work the way you might expect. Sometimes diligence is less useful than dalliance. For many, many years you have demanded that you be self-disciplined. You have pushed yourself and felt guilty when you couldn't do what you demanded of yourself. Perhaps there is a different way of doing this work. Perhaps we can change your relationship to your body and your way of making change. When I first started doing my own plan, I thought that "getting" the program meant doing it fully, being diligent, following the instructions and not "poking around." I still held the belief that being disciplined and focused were the only ways to go. Now, I am not so sure that these are the criteria for succeeding with the program. Now, I am convinced that something else is operating, something a little more subtle and unexpected. I believe that showing up and being in relationship to your body will help you more than being tough on yourself. Let me outline how I got to thinking this way. I used to lead a ten-week guided imagery series called Finding Healing From Within. Each week, we would do a guided meditation. After the meditation, the participants would draw what they experienced and the group would share their feelings. Sometimes a group member would sleep through every single meditation and "make up" a drawing because they had no memory of anything in the meditation. This made me really uncomfortable. Was I failing these people? Were they failing the group? Were they in denial? How could they sleep through my wonderful imagery? At the end of ten weeks, we reviewed the progress of everyone in the group. How had they changed? How did they feel? Surprisingly, time and time again, the "sleepers" would have as remarkable a change as the "doers." Not once, not twice, but every single time. Ten weeks of sleeping through and they would report a profound sense of inner healing. They didn't "work it." They slept through the meditations on a conscious level. But they were there. They showed up and they drew the pictures and they talked about their process. This experience taught me something. The act of showing up creates change. It creates powerful change even if on the outside it may not seem so. Making a commitment to healing starts a process - a chain of events that is much deeper than we may think. When you say, "I will get better," when you begin to hold the idea of "whatever it takes" something starts to shift. Given this, I looked again at the effect dalliance and diligence might have on the 7 steps of healing sugar sensitivity. I started looking at my own process of doing the steps. What was happening when I was playing around? Could those times be like the sleeping times in my guided imagery class? Could change be happening in spite of what seemed to be inattention? I looked in my journal. I discovered something astounding. When I was there attending to the steps, listening to my body, writing in my journal, even if I wasn't doing it perfectly, change was happening. I was making progress even when I was being kinda sloppy. Think of the sleepers. The sleepers were there in the room with the group. Every week. They woke up, colored with the group, and talked about sleeping. So when I showed up and kept the journal and wrote about sleeping through my food plan, I was still engaged with my body and working the steps. I was talking with myself about what was happening. I was not criticizing myself for food sleeping, I was simply watching. And I kept coming back to the journal. I kept coming back to my body and my healing. The nature of the sugar-sensitive person is to give when things get difficult. Like the C57 mice, you crouch in the corner and think you can't stick to your plan. Your biochemistry supports learned helplessness. You feel inadequate, overwhelmed and unable to follow through the way you hoped. A thousand failed diets from the past reinforced these feelings. As soon as you "sleep", you say, "Yah, see you did it again!" So you run away from the program, run away from yourself. This time it will be different, because knowing you are sugar sensitive lets you finally, finally understand the nature of who you are. Knowing you are sugar sensitive lets you shift the perspective from worrying about a thousand "failed" diets to being open to a solution. Think of that. You are tenacious. You keep going, you search and continue. You may be impulsive and impatient, but you can be and are committed to finding a solution. This program helps you use your tenacity in a new way. Because you now finally understand why other diets haven't worked, you can start to make choices. You can change the voices that say, "I know this won't really work" into "Hmmmm, let's sort this out." "Why am I bored?" "Why don't I like the journal?" "Why do I sabotage my efforts?" These questions become a part of our healing. They are not the old tapes of inadequacy. They may be the same questions, but they are asked from a different perspective. Say to yourself, "I will do whatever it takes to heal this. I will give it time, money, energy, whatever it takes. Taking care of my food will be at the TOP of my list. Not after my job, or after my family or maybe when I get to it. But every day." You have made these affirmations a thousand times. But generally, you make them in your head. You "think" about your affirmations. But mostly you do not actually put the affirmations into practice. What would it mean, really mean to "do whatever it takes?" Here are the folks who are helping put the newsletter together:
Gretel, our webmaster, puts it all together. David runs the Radiant Recovery® Store. Selena provides the weekly Ambassadors column. ©2012 Kathleen DesMaisons. All rights reserved. You are free to use or transmit this article to your ezine or website as long as you leave the content unaltered, use this attribution: "By Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D. of Radiant Recovery®", and notify kathleen@radiantrecovery.com of the location. Please visit the Radiant Recovery® website at http://www.radiantrecovery.com for additional resources on sugar sensitivity and healing addiction. You are getting the weekly newsletter from Radiant Recovery® in response to your signup. A copy of this newsletter may also be found posted on the web at http://www. radiantrecovery.com/ |
