Hi Sheelia

I understand how you feel, wanting to know if you have it all done right, etc., but just focus on the breakfast for now. It does sound like maybe you were trying to do too many things at once, trying to eat another meal in the day time, and maybe that has gotten you into a tizzy.

Without sounding rude, I hope you can understand how this comment is meant, you are obsessing over all this......we all had some obsessions at one point before beginning to sort out our food, and that is BECAUSE obsessing is caused by our brain chemistry not being right. So therefore, the further you go along the steps, the more it will all clear up and get better. Really, please just trust it, it DOES work 100% if you can just let go of control (another brain chemistry issue) and just do step 1.

I totally know what you mean about caring too much what others think, and believe it or not, THAT too, is just out of balance brain chemistry. I didn't leave the house alone for two years at one point when I was on sugar, maybe about 6 years ago. Whenever I went out even before that I was always pre-occupied with what others thought, just walking down the street, wondering what people in cars driving past thought of me, people walking past me, etc., I never enjoyed anything I did around strangers. BUT....all this has disappeared!! HOW? By starting on step one and then moving on to the other steps when I loved the step I was on, and did it so automatically that I could have done it in my sleep, lol.

I hope this helps.

With much love

Jane
xx

: I need some pointers, maybe some
: assurance that if I work this
: plan, I can see the urge to binge
: and eating too fast, diminish?

: I don't know if it's out of habit. I
: find myself still eating too fast,
: and eating by myself because I
: don't really know *how* to eat
: around others. part of me is maybe
: just confused
: emotionally...scared, unsure,
: worried about what others will
: think...in general this is
: something I always need to work
: on! (stop worrying what others
: think)

: When I am alone, I find I am eating
: too emotionally or maybe not even
: thinking about it - I want to
: learn how to eat slower, and more
: mindfully, along with really
: kicking the compulsion for sugar.

: I'm a bit confused how to tackle
: this..any advice, pointers? I know
: I need to work on Step 1 and I
: don't need to let go of sugar
: yet...but if the sugar is making
: me feel out of control, shouldn't
: I quit this cold turkey before
: anything else?

: This plan also seems to call for 3
: big meals and no snacks...but I
: remember being told that for those
: of us who are tempted to binge,
: it's important to break it up into
: maybe like..5 smaller meals a day
: so that we won't feel so hungry or
: tempted to over-eat / binge at the
: end of the day.

: I'd love to hear people share what
: their experiences have been, if
: this plan and doing anything in
: particular helped you to eat
: slower and also tackle the binge
: problems.

: Thanks