: Anyone recognize the situation?

Ah yes, my husband is generous too, and he pouts thinking of sharing sundaes together.

But we have been together for this journey, I found RR in 2002, and he knows I used to eat and then fall asleep from the sugar crash. Oh, and I was so irritable all the time.

He's seen the slow, not overnight changes in me, and he wouldn't go back. It's just so much more pleasant to be around me, nowadays, with the food holding me steady.

He's still as attentive, but now he offers applesauce, and only after a meal, lol. And his brother just surprised me by buying local peaches. I have it made, I know!

I remember nearer the start though, when I was still working Step 3. (I was three months on Step 3, after doing all the steps at once, crashing, and being encouraged to do the steps mindfully, to get all I could out of them. It was really a challenge for me to get all the parts and hold it steady.) I would get frustrated, thinking, this has got to change, I can't keep having people think that offering me sweets is okay! And I fussed and fretted about it.

The conclusion I have come to, after my second, slow way through the steps, is that my changes were needed first, before I could try to change others.

I could be as simple and direct as possible, turning things down, but it wasn't until I was biochemically different, with the steps under my belt, and ready for Step 6 (hey, for me, 6 months and I was finally ready...), that my attitude changed internally/biochemically, and it really was "would rather leave it don't really think of that as food, thank you". I wouldn't say that, of course, that would be rude...

And for others, I lost the notion that I was a drug dealer if I gave them their sugar. After all, I needed it to stay steady, when I was on Step 3 - and I was being gentle with myself. Why would I be any less gentle to someone I love? I want to see them succeed, and simply not having the sugar just sets us up for spikey existence. Not my idea of a good thing.

Anyway I am rambling now. I smiled when I saw your post, because yes, oh yes, that was so familiar...

Pleasantly,
-Lea (snoozey no longer!)