Joy dot: a male oriole visiting our yard this morning

Jeff, I always was so understanding and compassionate toward others, but I did not cut myself the same breaks. I was always bashing myself if I wasn't perfect (and of course, I was never perfect. Even if I did something perfectly, I still felt ugly, stupid etc so I always had something to bash myself over.)

The good news is, doing the food heals this. It takes some time. But I learned to treat myself with the same compassion that I treat others. I no longer feel driven to try to be perfect. I realize that my intentions are good, and sometimes things don't come out the way I intended, and if I mess up, I fix it, or I apologize and learn from what happened and go on from there.

It does get better.
Allison

: Well taken Kathleen. I guess have not
: been sensitive to how others feel,
: although I have made that
: pretense. However, I was only
: criticizing myself. In my head at
: least, I make it a point to find
: the good in others and leave the
: bashing for myself. This is
: getting better, but sometimes I
: wake up that way and the rest of
: the day can be a battle. Old
: habits die hard and sometimes the
: best I can do is hide until it
: passes.

: So I apologize.

: Jeffrey