Well taken Kathleen. I guess have not been sensitive to how others feel, although I have made that pretense. However, I was only criticizing myself. In my head at least, I make it a point to find the good in others and leave the bashing for myself. This is getting better, but sometimes I wake up that way and the rest of the day can be a battle. Old habits die hard and sometimes the best I can do is hide until it passes.

So I apologize.

Jeffrey

: I have gained about 2

: Hi Jeff,

: I Have been thinking about this post
: for a while. I generally do not
: post posts that
: are about *weight*...and I think I
: was not paying attention when I
: put this one up.
: I do understand your fear about
: gaining weight. But I want to say
: something about
: the use of the term *blubber.*

: This is a very, very denigrating
: word. And I work really hard to
: make sure that the
: forum is free from abusive language
: or self bashing.

: The use of this word would fall under
: both categories... I know it
: reflects your fear and disgust
: about body weight. But it also
: reflects a cultural message that
: fat is horrible..

: There are a very large number of us
: who carry more weight that some
: would deem *acceptable*. We live
: in a world awash with severe and
: profound judgment about our
: bodies. Saying that an overweight
: person is carrying *blubber* with
: that level of negative connotation
: is kinda like referring to a black
: man as a nigger.

: I know that this was not you
: intention, and I know it is a
: reflection of how you feel about
: yourself and your feel. And I am
: deeply attuned and sensitive to
: that because I have been where you
: are.

: If you stick with the program that
: fear will quiet.

: But think about it.

: Kathleen