Thank you for your reply.

I completely get where you're coming from and I agree it's sad.

Unfortunately my need to work is not from a sense of duty or anything honourable. It's hard to admit, but if I'm honest it stems from my not wanting people to think badly of me if I can't do something at work. So Rather than holding my hand up to admit when I need help I try to "keep calm & carry on". It's so counter productive in the long run and I seem to get nowhere fast.

I do believe that by doing the food, I have an opportunity to change for the better.

Sharon

: Dear Sharon,

: I started to write a response &
: then hit the wrong key &
: zapped back to the index! Will try
: to start again. Reading your post
: I said- boy is that me!

: Too tired to shop, too tired to do
: all the dirty dishes, too tired to
: cook,blah blah blah! & that's
: exactly how I feel too. Your
: slippery slope is so mine too.

: Years ago I had a boss who proudly
: proclaimed when I started work and
: asked about lunch," I don't
: have time for lunch", which
: meant you shldn't eat lunch
: either. I was the only in the
: office who ate lunch, but by God I
: ate it. I didn't care.

: It's so easy for us to put ourselves
: last. I remember reading something
: about women smoking. This woman
: smoked & then realized that
: the times she took to go outside
: & smoke (5 minutes) was the
: only time she took for herself in
: the whole day. How sad.

: Thanks for reading this. E.