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Did everyone buy their lunches for the 3 days before the trip, or did they have opportunities to buy food during the trip? Either way, I don't think there's anything wrong with what you did, since everyone supplied their own food. It's not as if you invited them to your house and then ate real food and offered them snacks. You can explain that you have been advised to eat this way for health reasons.

When I travel by plane, and pull out a full meal while everyone else is eating the lousy snacks provided by the airline, people sitting next to me are often envious, but I don't feel guilty, because they could have brought a good meal themselves, either by bringing it from home, or picking something up at the airport. They didn't think of it, because it wasn't a priority to them.

If you travel again with these same people, or with other people under similar circumstances, you could always discuss the lunches beforehand, asking if people would like to pool resources to make picnic lunches, and what everyone would like to bring. It could be that after seeing your good food, they will be motivated to do things differently next time.
Allison

: Even though I previously in this
: thread said I had successfully
: pre-planned my food for my
: vacation, I did have an issue that
: I'd like to ask you people about.
: My problem is how to manage things
: when being out with other couples,
: when meals are not so clearly
: defined.

: The nature of our vacation was such
: that we had sit-down breakfasts,
: on-the-go lunches, and sit-down
: dinners. That meant that I had to
: eat my own browns at breakfast and
: dinner, and had to fend for myself
: for lunch and for mid-morning and
: mid-afternoon snacks (when others
: ate pastries or other non-friendly
: foods).

: The problem was not so much in what
: food to bring for myself, but how
: to eat it in front of everybody,
: while they had inferior and
: unsatiating food. For example,
: while sitting outdoors in various
: nature spots, I needed to lay out
: a decent lunch for myself, while
: the others munched on skimpy
: snacks. Even though that was their
: own decision, it felt
: uncomfortable to eat a real meal
: when there was nothing for others.

: The point is that if everyone is
: snacking on junk, people feel ok
: about it. But if one person whips
: out real food, then everyone
: suddenly realizes how hungry they
: actually are for food.

: I considered bringing food for others
: too, but it was not realistic to
: bring along healthy lunches and
: snacks for 6 more people for 3
: days. Before we left on our trip,
: my husband expressed great
: discomfort about my bringing even
: just whole rye bread for myself.
: He has great difficulty with the
: idea of my eating "my"
: food which the others will not be
: having. I decided to bring a
: larger amount of bread and yam
: cakes, and ended up being short on
: the last day because I had offered
: it to all and it ran out. As a
: result, I had to eat whites on the
: last day.

: I find this issue annoying and not
: easily solvable. One of my
: problems is standing up to my
: husbands rigid ideas about what's
: right and what's not right to do
: in the company of others.

: I'd be interested in hearing your
: ideas.
: Sarit