Yes I must reschedule those doctors appointments. I think since I have this free time two days a week I will gradually get caught up with some things I've neglected. I know my mother worries about me.

The other day my sister reminded me of why I'm here - to give our mother peace of mind in her final days while she stays in the home she's lived in for 50 years. Unlike your mother, mine never wanted to go to assisted living. But I'm glad your mother got to end her days at home with your dad there.

Thanks for sharing your experience, I appreciate it so much.

Gigi

: You're doing something that is so
: good and right but I expect our
: mother is glad you will be getting
: some help. Mine always said never
: look after me when I;m old, put me
: in a home. I often wonder why she
: was so adamant about that and in
: the end died of cancer at 76 in
: her own home (my father was still
: alive and with her then). Perhaps
: she'd seen what it can do to
: people to be a sole carer and yet
: it must be so much nicer to be in
: your own home. I am pretty sure
: most of us who are mothers looking
: forward would want our children to
: have enough free time to feel
: rested and good, not matter what
: compromises would have to be made
: with our care. I do.

: I hope you find the 2 afternoons of
: help useful and may be there can
: be even more arranged to make your
: life easier. You cannot care for
: your mother if you don't care for
: your own health. She would want
: you to do so. Get back for those
: medical checks for yourself.