Oh Camille, I sincerely appreciate your comments. It has helped me to see my actions in a clearer light that I can better understand now. I needed to read that because I was getting weak again. I
noticed I get weak when I need some emotional support because I have alot going on. So do you think reading about raising BE is the way to go in this case?

Kathy

: Hi, Kathy,

: I think it's great that you're aware
: enough to realize that this would
: be giving part of your energy
: away.

: If someone asked me not to contact
: him any more, I'd feel it was
: important to honor his wishes. He
: had the right to say
: "no" to me, and I must
: respect that. I recently asked a
: very good friend not to contact me
: any more (he's married, I'm not,
: and I like him too much for us to
: be friends). And I feel honored
: and respected because he has NOT
: contacted me.

: And I have also had people contact me
: from the past whom I asked NOT to
: get in touch with me, and they'd
: argue, "but I'm different
: now! I'm better now! I'm not that
: person!" But they simply were
: not treating me and my request
: with respect. The fact that they
: thought it was okay to ignore what
: I had asked them to do showed that
: they were not different.

: I think in honoring his wishes you
: are honoring yourself.

: Camille