Rules of the Road


We send these rules out monthly, as a reminder of the guidelines for participating in the Radiant Recovery® community. As the community grows and grows, these rules help keep us all on topic, safe, and comfortable.

If you ever want to make any changes to your list status, go to http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Radiantstepsix/join . This menu will also let you change how you receive your mail. You can either get it one post at a time or in a digest which lists all the posts in a given day. (If you want to read from the web, please do not select "no mail" - see rule #11 below.)

Okay, here are your guidelines...don't let them overwhelm you (smile)...they will all make sense as you work with the list.

Warmly,
Kathleen

Guidelines for our lists

1. MESSAGES GO TO EVERYONE
When you send a note to the list, it goes out to everyone on the list. This may seem confusing at first, but as you work with it, you will start to see the wonderful dynamic of our shared *dialogue*. Addiction is about isolation. Making connections helps you heal. The shared experience of a few helps everyone. We work to ensure that your online group connections are safe; keeping the dialogue on the list does this, and also it will bring into your life the power of the group as a whole, which is just amazing!

2. DOUBLE CHECK THAT "TO" ADDRESS
Who are you sending your message to? BEFORE hitting the send button, check and make sure it's going where you want it to go. You can end up with egg on your face if you send what you intend as a private message to the entire list.

3. RESPECT OTHERS' PRIVACY
You may find that you know someone on the list and you learn about some pretty personal information. Be as respectful of privacy as you would like to be respected. Please don't forward a personal message to the list, even if the message is from a member, without clearing it through the author of the post first. Get permission from the author of any post BEFORE forwarding it to a non-member or sharing it with the forum or another list [most people are happy to give such permission].

4. THE SUBJECT SAYS IT ALL
Make sure the subject line tells what is in the message. If you are responding to a digest, change the subject line BEFORE you hit send (smile) If the subject has changed throughout the thread, change the subject line (smile) so that folks can see what the conversation is about.

5. STAY ON TOPIC - "DOING THE FOOD"
Make sure your post talks about doing Radiant Recovery food with respect to the list you are posting to. You might find some amazing insights and it is helpful to others to explain how what you are discovering relates to doing the food. This helps us keep on track.

6. DECLUTTER YOUR MESSAGE
When replying to a previous post, please only keep the sentence or two you are replying to, and delete everything else. If you need help learning how to do this, please ask - we can help!

7. RESPECT EACH OTHER
As I am sure you realize from the books, I want to create a tone of acceptance, tolerance and compassion on all the radiant recovery lists. I know you will participate in this. I do not tolerate *flaming* on any of our lists. [If you are new to the internet, flaming is nasty comments made to someone about something they did or said.]

8. NO ADS/RELIGION/POLITICS/URL'S
We do not allow anyone to promote their political or religious views, or any other product or program on the Radiant Recovery lists, either directly or via a signature tagline. Our goal is to stay on topic and to keep the discussion safe for our very diverse community. We also ask that you not include biblical references in your messages nor that you make reference to specific denominational language in your discussion. SPAM is strictly prohibited and all spammers will be banned and removed from the list. [SPAM is unsolicited e-mail advertising.] And please do not post URLs (links to other websites) unless you check with the list liaison first.

9. NO VIRUS WARNINGS
Please do not send virus warnings to the list. If the message says to send to as many people as you can, it is probably a hoax. A good site to check out viruses and hoaxes is: http://www.symantec.com/avcenter/index.html

10. NO PHONE NUMBERS
Never include your phone numbers in a post to the list. Remember this is a public place (smile).

11. GIVE PROPER CREDIT
If you quote something that was written by someone else, always quote the source. Since I am a published author, honoring copyright is very important to me.

12. EMAIL DELIVERY OPTIONS
Because we sometimes need to send out a special message from the moderator that everyone needs to see, we don't allow people to set their delivery options to No Email. You can set your delivery options to Individual Emails, Daily Digest, or Special Notices. Special Notices is like No Email, except you will receive occasional (infrequent) announcements. For those on Individual Emails and Daily Digest, you will also get special notices whenever they are sent.

13. THESE RULES ARE FOR YOUR BENEFIT
By continuing your subscription to the list, you are agreeing to these guidelines. I do reserve the right to review or remove your list membership if you are unwilling to abide by these guidelines. If you have any questions or concerns, please email me at radiantkd@mindspring.com

Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.
www.radiantrecovery.com

(c) Kathleen DesMaisons, 2006. All rights reserved.